Parental Alienation – Or is it? Misrepresentation of Autistic Behaviours

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http://www.socialworktoday.com/archive/102708p26.shtmlParental Alienation Syndrome — The Parent/Child Disconnect

The above article totally ignores the potential for autism and possible resultant family dynamics in that situation. I will discuss just one scenario where this could be misused against a parent in an autism family.

Imagine if you will, a dad who for a variety of reasons does not accept his child could have autism. It could be that the mother sees the behaviours in an undiagnosed child, but the dad resists accepting the possibility. It could be that the child is diagnosed, but the dad does not accept the child’s differences or understand the condition. Some of the reasons this might occur is ego-based, fear, or even that the dad has autism himself so the child’s behaviours seem typical to him.

A quick Google will tell you that this problem is quite widespread.

I will quote some paragraphs from the above document and if you are an autism parent, you will see quickly, how dangerous this could be to you in an acrimonious separation situation.


2. Weak, Frivolous, and Absurd Rationalizations
When alienated children are questioned about the reasons for their intense hostility toward the targeted parent, the explanations offered are not of the magnitude that typically would lead a child to reject a parent. These children may complain about the parent’s eating habits, food preparation, or appearance.

That could have been written about an autistic child. What seems very minor or inconsequential to a neurotypical person can be hugely magnified to an autistic one. Autistics also focus on the details, so they will notice lots of little things and it will look to others like they are being disproportionate. A disgruntled father, who is lashing out at the mother and looking for blame, will of course cite this as a sign of unreasonableness and insist the mother has turned the child against them over a period of time or raised the child wrongly.

5. Absence of Guilt About the Treatment of the Targeted Parent
Alienated children typically appear rude, ungrateful, spiteful, and cold toward the targeted parent, and they appear to be impervious to feelings of guilt about their harsh treatment. Gratitude for gifts, favors, or child support provided by the targeted parent is nonexistent. Children with parental alienation syndrome will try to get whatever they can from that parent, declaring that it is owed to them.

Lowered empathy coupled with anxiety and stress can override what may seem logical reactions. An autistic child does not mean to be rude, but can be focused on those aforementioned minor details and not remember to thank, can be blunt and may focus on the negatives because the way the autistic mind thinks, there is no need to mention the positives as they don’t need resolving. Literalness can also mean that an autistic child views the role of the parent as a job, so that they must do certain things to be performing it correctly – that doesn’t mean they don’t love their parent. Stress can give rise to negative comments which the child may not perceive as mean due to low empathy. Autistic children can release some stress through complaining.

8. Rejection of Extended Family
Finally, the hatred of the targeted parent spreads to his or her extended family. Not only is the targeted parent denigrated, despised, and avoided but so are his or her extended family. Formerly beloved grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins are suddenly and completely avoided and rejected.

An autistic child may feel stressed at spending time with extended family members, especially if they don’t see them regularly, because it upsets their routine. Additionally, if those family members also don’t understand autism or don’t accept the child has autism, they will not be bearing in mind the specific needs of the child when they spend time with them, which can make the child feel uncertain and stressed. They are used to spending time with a mother that intuits their needs and is used to their whims. It can be a terrifying place to be plonked with family members who don’t respond the same way. If an autistic child has low danger awareness and the extended family members do not supervise accordingly, that can be a sticking point between the mother and the relatives, based on a very valid concern. That does not mean the parent is being obstructive or turning the child against relatives and if the father or his relatives don’t understand autism, it’s all too easy to assume the worst about the mother when she is entirely innocent.

If the child resists being taken out alone by the father, he might make assumptions that the mother is poisoning the child’s mind against him. But there are all sorts of reasons why the autistic child may resist spending time alone with the father that are nothing to do with the mother.

Let’s say the dad is one of those who is a real joker, doesn’t take anything seriously and he does not understand autism at all. He insists that if the child wails in protest at his jokes which are taken literally, that the child is exaggerating. If they have what seem to him to be extreme reactions, they are not exaggerating, it is their real experience, because that is how an autistic person processes it. Because of this, he stresses the child and they will only go somewhere with him if the mother goes too – which isn’t possible in the situation, so the child refuses to go. The father blames the mother for this.

Autistic children also can have inappropriate laughter when they are stressed, it’s a form of release of stress, so superficially it appears to the dad that the child is having a great time. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they are enjoying a situation. The child may return home very upset and having masked their distress whilst spending time with dad, then throws themselves at the mother complaining of a long list of upsets and say they will not go anywhere with the father again.

If the parents end up in a court situation, especially where social services are involved, the mother may be wrongfully demonised, accused of emotional harm and parental alienation and in a worst case scenario custody could be given to the father. Imagine giving custody to a father who rejects their child’s condition and does not know how to provide for the child’s needs? Any ensuing behavioural problems in the child resulting from this scenario would likely also be blamed on the mother, it would be claimed she had caused emotional damage and the child needed therapy to recover. In fact, in this situation it would be the father who needed therapy to overcome his rejection of the child’s condition and his wrongful anger against the mother that will only interfere with father-child bonding and prevent him being a good father.

The saddest irony, is that the very thing the father in this situation is falsely accusing the mother of, is the very thing that he ends up causing.

It is high time the differences of autism families are understood by all those who are involved with families, to ensure there is no misrepresentation of autism, no wrongful blame and no unjust and harmful interventions, devastating lives.

The Hidden Difficulties of Autistic Children in School

Cortical Chauvinism

One of our readers is the blogger for Planet Autism. We seem to have very similar ideas and understandings of the condition and have enjoyed lengthy conversations behind the blogs. In this regard I asked her to write a piece for corticalchauvinism.com and she complied. Usually I introduce the writer with some biographical information, this time she preferred to remain anonymous.

invisible disability

People, as a whole, often judge by appearances. It’s human nature. If someone looks dirty and unkempt, they are clearly either homeless, mentally unwell, or an addict of some sort. The quiet guy with glasses is a geek, the rotund woman with children and groceries is motherly and the wildly behaving child must have ADHD or be poorly parented. But at a subconscious level, we know that we could be wrong, “never judge a book by it’s cover” as the saying goes.

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Asperger’s and “High-functioning” Autism – a Disability in Law?

IndecisiveI have been prompted to write this post, in response to recent opinions and comments I have come across, challenging whether Asperger’s syndrome is in fact a disability.  Most puzzled to hear this, since it is an autistic spectrum condition and my understanding has always been, that it most definitely is a disability, I set about investigating.

For the purposes of claiming Disability Living Allowance (DLA), DLA will only be awarded depending on the effects of a condition on the individual, as there is variance between people as to degree and severity of impact.  So clearly the DWP uses the legal definition of a disability as regards impact in coming to it’s decision.  But the DWP medical guidance for decision makers (adults) list, has Asperger’s and autism on it: https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/321674/a-z-adult-medical-conditions-jun-14.pdf

According to the UK Government, the definition of a disability under the Equality Act 2010 is:

You’re disabled under the Equality Act 2010 if you have a physical or mental impairment that has a ‘substantial’ and ‘long-term’ negative effect on your ability to do normal daily activities.

What ‘substantial’ and ‘long-term’ mean

  • substantial’ is more than minor or trivial – eg it takes much longer than it usually would to complete a daily task like getting dressed

  • long-term’ means 12 months or more – eg a breathing condition that develops as a result of a lung infection

There are special rules about recurring or fluctuating conditions, for example, arthritis. For more details about the special rules download the ‘Equality Act Guidance’.

Here is guidance on the Equality Act 2010 from the Office of Disability Issues: http://www.equalityhumanrights.com/sites/default/files/documents/EqualityAct/odi_equality_act_guidance_may.pdf  It clearly states that:

“Only those disabled people who are defined as disabled in accordance with section 6 of the Act, and the associated Schedules and regulations made under that section, will be entitled to the protection that the Act provides to disabled people.”

So I checked out section 6 and that states:

“6 Disability

(1) A person (P) has a disability if—

(a) P has a physical or mental impairment, and
(b) the impairment has a substantial and long-term adverse effect on P’s ability to carry out normal day-to-day activities.

(2) A reference to a disabled person is a reference to a person who has a disability.

(3) In relation to the protected characteristic of disability—

(a) a reference to a person who has a particular protected characteristic is a reference to a person who has a particular disability;
(b) a reference to persons who share a protected characteristic is a reference to persons who have the same disability.

(4) This Act (except Part 12 and section 190) applies in relation to a person who has had a disability as it applies in relation to a person who has the disability; accordingly (except in that Part and that section)—

(a) a reference (however expressed) to a person who has a disability includes a reference to a person who has had the disability, and
(b) a reference (however expressed) to a person who does not have a disability includes a reference to a person who has not had the disability.”

According to a legal adviser I communicated with recently, “there is dispute as to whether Asperger’s is a disability”.  To which my question is, by whom?  You will see shortly that this legal adviser knew something the rest of us don’t.  My research turned up the following, in addition to the above information:  http://www.autism.org.uk/about-autism/autism-and-asperger-syndrome-an-introduction/what-is-autism.aspx

“Autism is a lifelong developmental disability that affects how a person communicates with, and relates to, other people. It also affects how they make sense of the world around them.”

So the NAS considers autism a disability, they are at least part-funded by the Government and are universally accepted as the national autism charity in the UK.

https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/85011/disability.pdf see the section on “What is a Disability” on page 4, where autism is included.

A person receives a diagnosis of autism (including Asperger’s syndrome) because they have significant impairments that affect their day-to-day life, that’s why they are called diagnostic criteria.  By it’s very nature, autism means communication impairments.  When it’s a high-functioning autistic condition, having fluent speech makes the communication impairments no less disabling, struggling to understand humour, sarcasm, nuance, infer meaning, non-verbal body language, understand the intentions of others, literalness, all put the autistic person at a significant disadvantage and can cause all manner of difficulties.

The autistic brain is wired differently from the neurotypical brain.  There are over-connections in some areas and under-connections in others.  This means the individual processes things differently, in an atypical way.  That makes everything confusing and difficult, we are an a disadvantage – how is that not a disability?  How else do autistic people fall victim to “mate crime”, hate crime and criminal acts in general?

Many people with autism also have sensory problems, gastrointestinal problems, are more prone to epilepsy and many have a systemic connective tissue disorder known as Ehlers Danlos Syndrome – there is a strong link between EDS and autism.  We are also much more prone to sleep disorders because we have difficulties with melatonin production and processing.  Rigidity is part of autism, the need for routine and difficulty adapting to change or difference, which can have a very negative impact on functioning in day-to-day life, from the point of view of basic necessities as well as the expectations society places on us.  It is a complex condition.  The very fact that employment rates in autism are so poor, is indication enough of the impact it frequently has on the individual.  The fact that children with autism need additional support in education, some with occupational therapy and the rates of co-morbidity of additional conditions including ADHD, anxiety, depression etc. are so high, speaks for itself.  The fact that the person with Asperger’s or HFA is usually painfully aware of their differences and difficulties and the pressure society and we ourselves place on us, is an added difficulty.

Now we come to how a court of law will view a disability. After all, we have the Equality Act 2010 don’t we?  According to all the above, Asperger’s and autism are considered a disability and they definitely fit within the legal definition of the Equality Act.

When an Asperger’s friend had difficulties at work, they were disadvantaged in a way which amounted to discrimination by their employer.  They were put in a position of being compelled to take legal action, which sadly they lost.  Knowing the details of the situation, I felt this was very unjust.  It appeared that the reason they lost, was because the nature of Asperger’s as a disability, does not apply to the disabled overall, as a group.

“…the claimant had failed to establish group disadvantage for the purposes of section 19(2)(b)…. The reference to sharing the characteristic must be to the protected characteristic which in this case pursuant to Section 4 is disability. Despite observations to the contrary recited in the Equality and Human Rights Commission Code of Practice on Employment (2011), but applying the approach which would be adopted to other protected characteristics such as sex and race, the group disadvantage must be all disabled persons as opposed to a discrete group namely those suffering from Asperger’s Syndrome.”

I was dumbfounded by this, it’s bizarre.  By that criteria, no disabled person could claim disability discrimination in a court of law, because there is such a huge variety, nature or type of disability and everyone’s case is therefore different (either as an individual or as part of a “sub-group” of the disabled).  This makes a mockery of the law and renders the Equality Act 2010 effectively useless. It’s like saying if an employer removed a wheelchair ramp for people who are unable to walk and are wheelchair bound, knowing they had employees using wheelchairs who would be unable to access their place of employment, they didn’t discriminate against them because not all disabled people are in wheelchairs!  The friend in question is rightly countering with this:

http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/section/19

19 Indirect discrimination

(1) A person (A) discriminates against another (B) if A applies to B a provision, criterion or practice which is discriminatory in relation to a relevant protected characteristic of B’s.

(2) For the purposes of subsection (1), a provision, criterion or practice is discriminatory in relation to a relevant protected characteristic of B’s if—

(a) A applies, or would apply, it to persons with whom B does not share the characteristic,
(b) it puts, or would put, persons with whom B shares the characteristic at a particular disadvantage when compared with persons with whom B does not share it,
(c) it puts, or would put, B at that disadvantage, and
(d) A cannot show it to be a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim.

(3) The relevant protected characteristics are—

    age;
    disability;
    gender reassignment;
    marriage and civil partnership;
    race;
    religion or belief;
    sex;
    sexual orientation.

So it’s very confusing that my friend lost their case, because according to section 6 of the Equality Act 2010 this friend should have been protected.

My friend was penalised for something directly resulting from their Asperger’s and they were not given reasonable adjustments by their employer either, even though their employer knew they had Asperger’s.  It’s even more evident when you consider that the Equality Act 2010 guidance also says this:

“Indirect disability discrimination happens when there is a rule, a policy or even a practice that applies to everyone but which particularly disadvantages people with a particular disability compared with people who do not have that disability, and it cannot be shown to be justified as being intended to meet a legitimate objective in a fair, balanced and reasonable way. As with discrimination arising from a disability, it is necessary to strike a balance between the negative impact of rules or practices on some people and the reasons for applying them.  So you should consider whether there is any other way to meet your objectives that would not have a discriminatory effect.”

It sets a worrying precedent that a court of law came to this finding.  It gives carte blanche to employers to act as they want with complete disregard to the rights of the disabled, it places the rights of the disabled on very shaky ground.  Or are they now saying that only physical disabilities count?  Are invisible disabilities such as autism not as “important” as physical disabilities?  Because that’s discrimination in itself.

So with a diagnosis of ASC, you may have been to a special school, you may have had a statement of SEN, you may have needed all sorts of support growing up, you may live in supported housing and need support workers, you may claim DLA, you may be medicated for your difficulties and you may have co-morbid conditions causing you additional challenges, but no matter how much you are discriminated against, you cannot claim discrimination because disabled people as a group, do not all have the same disability or difficulties as you.  Well there is yet another law that isn’t worth the paper it’s printed on!

Some autistics like to say “I’m not disabled, I have a difference” and I do agree that the neurology we have is a difference, because autism is not a mental illness and I am also glad of the positive attributes it has given me.  But the way society is, the environment we have to exist in because there is no choice, makes life frequently disabling for most of us, and we’d be lying if we said there were not many disabling aspects of the condition – we would not have been diagnosed otherwise.  That’s not the same as saying you are ‘giving in’ to a disability and not trying to reach for goals or to make a success of your life.  But apparently, legally we are not disabled, despite what it says everywhere you check and we are unprotected in law.  So I ask – who is going to do something about this?  Why has a law been written which excludes those with Asperger’s and high-functioning autism, whilst pretending that it does not?

Autism and Education: Does Inclusion Work?

Inclusion“Inclusion” – that education buzz word that every parent with an autistic child, most likely has at least some reservations about.  Children at the “severe” end of the spectrum usually attend special schools, as their needs or difficulties are great enough to interfere with education in a mainstream setting.  What about those at the “high-functioning” end of the spectrum?  They are intelligent, with at least an average IQ, they are verbal and can usually manage basic functions like the toilet and self-care to varying degrees that are considered acceptable enough, to be absorbed into mainstream education.  Does inclusion work for those children?  I strongly believe it doesn’t.

High-functioning autistic children probably wouldn’t get their academic needs met in a special school (and there would likely also be sensory difficulties from learning along side children with severe disabilities), so we need to have more schools specifically for these children, who have a very unique set of needs, being academically able but also needing the right amount of reasonable adjustments to make their experience accessible and their wellbeing ensured. Autism rates are rising so this issue can’t be ignored.

Autism awareness is shockingly low in the UK. We end up with lots of ASC children excluded, becoming “school refusers” or just suffering terribly with anxiety and behavioural issues, because mainstream inclusion isn’t working for them. But still, the tick-box mentality prevails and the Government wants to do their utmost to force autistic children into mainstream schools which demand, cajole and pressure them into an NT way of being – the square peg into a round hole.

I’m far from alone in believing inclusion doesn’t work, here are several articles about it:

  1. http://www.independent.co.uk/news/education/education-news/specialneeds-education-does-mainstream-inclusion-work-470960.html
  2. http://www.teachers.org.uk/files/active/0/costs_of_inclus-pt2.pdf
  3. http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2007/jan/11/comment.publicservices
  4. http://behaviourguru.blogspot.co.uk/2013/02/when-everyones-special-no-one-is-how.html
  5. https://www.educ.cam.ac.uk/people/staff/galton/Costs_of_Inclusion_Final.pdf
  6. http://www.allfie.org.uk/pages/useful%20info/integration.html

There are organisations set up specifically for the purpose of assisting parents to communicate their child’s needs to their school.  Surely if inclusion worked, the schools would be prepared for autistic children, trained to support them and understanding of what reasonable adjustments they need?  It’s law after all, the Equality Act 2010 states that everyone with a disability is entitled to reasonable adjustments in accessing education and other sectors of society.  Hearts and Minds is one such organisation set up to help parents:  http://heartsandmindsphones.co.uk/advocacy/  They state:

“The research revealed that 67 per cent of parents worry that their child is not supported appropriately at school, with more than half admitting that their child has experienced negative comments, or bullying, as a result of their condition. Parents described mainstream schooling as a ‘lonely’, ‘scary’ and ‘very anxious environment’.

“With 69 per cent of parents stating that schools are not appropriately aware of their child’s condition and receive inadequate support and information from central Government on how to sufficiently teach them, it’s clear that something has to be done to address this growing problem.” – Ian McGrath, Founder of Hearts & Minds

In my personal experience, having moved my eldest child from one secondary school where she suffered terrible bullying which the school refused to acknowledge or support her with, and her next school seemingly wanting to do the right thing but needing a lot of badgering and still not “getting it” adequately, I have learned the hard way.  My younger daughter, being in an ASC unit from which she integrates for part of the day, I thought this would give the right support, but ironically (and shockingly) the unit staff seem to have extremely low autism awareness and both children struggle terribly socially.  I don’t feel mainstream staff have anywhere near enough training and they don’t understand the autistic child’s needs, let-alone have the time to support them.  The environment is often too busy, noisy, stressful and demanding for an ASC child, which they may be unable to communicate, instead melting down and disintegrating when they go home.

If an autistic child needs a statement to get by in mainstream school, doesn’t this tell the Government something?  I would also like to ask why autism training is not compulsory for all school staff?  How are they supposed to even try to support autistic children if they don’t understand them?

It seems to be pretty common that autistic children are punished at school for autism behaviours, in the belief that they are just being naughty.  Until there is understanding that the neurology of an autistic child is different to a neurotypical child, then things like this will keep on happening.

It’s hard enough trying to support an autistic child in a mainstream school, but then parents also often have to battle the LA to get a statement (now EHCP) for their child in addition.  There doesn’t seem to be much sympathy for the fact that high-functioning autistic are struggling hugely with anxiety or depression because they are academically able.  If the child is female it’s much worse, because females on the spectrum tend to internalise their difficulties and schools often fail to accept that the child is really in that much distress.

So my belief is that inclusion does not work, staff are untrained in autism, they don’t have the capacity to support the child to the level they need and what is needed is autism-specific schools that cater for the needs of high-functioning autistic children.  Those schools would be set up in such a way that they take into account sensory needs, are run in a way to reduce stress and pressure on the children so that they don’t feel the need to explode onto their families after school, they should allow the children time out when they need it and have on-site ASC trained counsellors who can help them reduce stress throughout the day.

These are the adults of tomorrow, if we don’t get things right now, we could be left with a much greater burden in years to come.

Courts of Protection, MSBP/FII and Autism

human rights With Courts of Protection making decisions on not only mental capacity of adults with autism, but also on the fitness of their parents to remain as their carers and legal advocates, let’s look at whether the right decisions are being made.  A case has come to light regarding a 24 year old male with lower-functioning autism, who was deemed to lack capacity and whose mother had her rights removed and was accused of FII, the renamed Munchausen’s Syndrome by Proxy.  Here are links to three websites/blogs, (1) is journalist Brian Deer’s opinion on the case with a link to the full judgement (2) is a blog on human rights and (3) a website article commentary with some rather vitriolic and closed-minded comments about the mother (and all parents pursuing alternative remedies) below it:

  1. http://briandeer.com/solved/mother-lied-protection-mmr-1.htm (the full 92 page judgement from that page)

  2. http://ukhumanrightsblog.com/2014/10/15/munchausen-mmr-and-mendacious-warrior-mothers/ Steve Hawkins and Janet Yates are two contributors to the comments, who have also looked at the picture of what happened with this case differently than those condemning the mother and I note, that following their posts responding to the condemners, comments were closed.

  3. http://leftbrainrightbrain.co.uk/2014/10/12/brian-deer-wakefield-mmr-mother-fabricated-injury-story


Rather than discuss the details or outcome of the case in the way these sites are doing, I will instead write an open letter style response to The Honourable Mr Justice Baker, the judge who made the findings to remove the mother’s rights and decide that her son lacked capacity, with my comments in bold either replying to his italicised paragraphs or quoting them to highlight my points:

So, this is the mother deemed neglectful and abusive:

For the first 18 years of his life he lived at home with his parents – his mother, hereafter referred to as E, and father, A – where he was by all accounts generally looked after very well. His parents were and are devoted to him and have devoted much of their lives to his care. He attended local special schools and enjoyed a wide range of activities.”

The mother clearly cared for her son very well and took him for dental appointments and vaccinations (even though vaccinations are not obligatory). This is a mother who had no problems until she came into contact with the LA and other state services.

“Until his late teens the family had no contact with the local authority. At that point, however, social services became involved because his parents were looking for a residential placement where he could continue his education. There is no evidence up to that point of any conflict between members of his family and those professionals with whom they came into contact. From that point, however, the picture changed and there has been almost continuous conflict, in particular between M’s mother, E, and the local authority. M’s parents assert that they have been subjected to a malicious campaign aimed at removing M from their care. The local authority asserts that M has been subjected to a regime characterised by excessive control exercised by E over every aspect of M’s life. More seriously, the local authority alleges that E has fabricated accounts of M’s health problems and subjected him to unnecessary assessments and treatments, as well as imposing on him an unnecessarily restrictive diet, with a range of unnecessary supplements.”

It is unlikely that the mother would invent that she was told by the GP that she was an over-anxious mother, she was also calling doctors for help with her son’s difficulties – signs of abuse and neglect? I think not. Many mothers are referred to as over-anxious by GPs, who are non-specialist in any medical field and who are known to have a complete lack of autism awareness and autism training in most cases, for those very reasons.

It is the parents’ case that the mother told their GP that he had had a bad reaction to the MMR but was told by him that she was an over-anxious mother and must be imagining it. When E called the GP a second time and said she was calling the emergency services, she was told not to do this, but went ahead because M was going in and out of consciousness. The paramedics and the GP had arrived at the same time, at which point M’s temperature was 104. The GP had told the paramedics to leave. Before going, they had told her that this was a case of meningeal encephalitis. The GP had been verbally abusive to E. The above account, given to Dr. Beck, a psychologist instructed as an expert witness in these proceedings, is similar to that given by the mother to a variety of professionals”

There being no record made of what the mother says she reported to doctors regarding the MMR does not mean she did not report those concerns. I have personal experience of doctors and other professionals not only failing to record information given, but actually making false reports of consultations and other matters and I am not alone in this. Has his honour also not heard of confirmation bias? If a doctor does not believe MMR causes autism, and especially if there is financial incentive [link] for them to give the vaccination, they will be unlikely to record adverse effects, especially if they were reported verbally and they responded verbally to tell the parent that they disagreed there was a connection, because the scientific community has stated there is none. Here is just one study, easily found, which states that many more nurses submit yellow cards regarding vaccine reactions than do GPs or hospitals: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1884300/

His honour admits that despite a doctor advising tests, none were referred for:

Dr Baird thought it appropriate to consider his problems under the general heading of “autistic learning difficulties”. She suggested that he undergo a range of tests but observed that, if all proved negative, there might well be a substantial genetic component to his developmental problem. I note in passing that Dr Carpenter, in his examination of all the records in this case, found no test results following this assessment and was unclear how far the genetic component to M’s autism was explored with the parents.”

So with that lack of care happening, it’s not so unlikely that verbal reports by E were not recorded – especially as professionals rarely welcome patients (or their relatives) questioning them or being well-informed, so would have likely not respected anything she said, or taken offence at her directness and hence brushed her concerns off.

His honour states:

In none of the records prior to 2000 is there any account of an adverse reaction to the MMR.”

But none of the doctors listed are specialists in vaccinations and subsequent ill-effects – why would for instance, an audiologist have anything to say about the MMR, it’s not their discipline? So the mother would logically not have reported it to those specialists.  Why is this seen as evidence of fabrication?

Regarding Andrew Wakefield, he has said on record that he did not advise parents they should not vaccinate, only that they should have the vaccinations singly instead of combined, but the Government made that option impossible to parents. This might interest you: http://childhealthsafety.wordpress.com/2012/03/14/government-experts-cover-up-vaccine-hazards/ and this: http://nsnbc.me/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/BSEM-2011.pdf

It was the hospital themselves who recommended the gluten and casein free diet: He was put on a gluten and casein free diet and prescribed liquid paraffin and Picolax for his constipation.”  So why was E criticised about this?

According to Dr Carpenter, however, there is no record in the GP notes or any other contemporaneous complaint that M had suffered a gut disorder during this 10 year period.”   Does his honour know how many people suffer gastric discomfort and problems? They don’t all go back and forth to the GP when they can get OTC remedies to deal with the symptoms, so the lack of gastric issues being recorded in that period means very little and if she was seeking alternative remedies these wouldn’t necessarily have been recorded anyway.  Negative assumption again, of fabrication.

In the following years M continued to receive assessment and treatment from a variety of alternative and complimentary practitioners, including auditory integration and sensory intervention therapy and sound therapy, as well as being treated for routine illnesses by the GP. He was not, however, permitted to undergo any further vaccinations. In 2004, E had refused to give consent for M to receive immunisations for tetanus, diphtheria and polio. In addition, M’s diet was increasingly restricted and he was given an increasing number of supplements.”  Clearly the mother was in no way neglectful, as she was taking her son for GP appointments as required. It is a parent’s right to decline vaccinations, as already stated, they are not obligatory. Is it now a crime to alter diet to find the best one for someone with gastric problems? Or to give vitamins and supplements? I think not! Clearly, the supplements being given were recommended by hospitals also: By this point, according to a list prepared by E and A, the range of biomedical interventions being supplied to M included a probiotic, six vitamin supplements, four mineral supplements, five trace elements, fatty acids, amino acids, enzymes and a range of homeopathic remedies. E and A said that this combination had been arrived at through the advice of the gastroenterology department of the Royal Free Hospital, the Autism Research Unit at Sunderland University, the Autism Treatment Trust in Scotland and a privately funded naturopath.”  How does this translate as snake-oil salesmen or the actions of an unbalanced mother (quite apart from the fact that vitamins and supplements are every day items – not abuse!)?

The parents asserted, as is their right to do: “The medical profession does little to recognise the chronic medical disease that autism truly is … It is for this reason that we have consistently adopted a biochemical intervention approach and engaged a variety of privately funded specialists, all of whom have made a tremendous difference to the improvement to M’s quality of life and proven that autism is a treatable medical condition. Due to the constant rejection and dismissal of our conviction that we have continually faced, we have chosen only to tap into the NHS for diagnosis of secondary medical complications of a more general nature, local dietary advice and, where specialist expertise was available, in the form of Dr Andrew Wakefield.”  Does this sound like neglectful and abusive parents? No, it sounds like parents with their own views who are perfectly entitled to have them and views which are shared by thousands of others in the autism community. They have been vilified for not conforming to the tick-box mentality that the state would have them do.

I see parents who tried their hardest for their child, planned for his future in the face of obstructiveness from the state – as many parents of autistic children find they have to do, tried to get things right for their son and wanted everything to be the best for him. The Government claims that parents are experts in their own children – clearly that only applies so long as the parents are in full agreement with the state.

Does this sound like a neglectful or abusive parent?  E made a series of complaints about the standard of care given to M, including that he suffered repeated episodes of ringworm, other fungal infections, conjunctivitis and ear infections, including a burst eardrum. As a result, E spent three weeks staying in a nearby hotel to provide support for M.”  No, it sounds like a parent wanting the best for their disabled child.

A dentist claims E was informed of the presence of an abscess but there was nothing in writing to E to say that this is so, only the dentist’s personal record (which as E points out could have been altered for the reason of fear over liability). Where is the controversy? Isn’t a courtroom the place for only facts and evidence? If it’s unprovable it should be disallowed. E emailed the dentist the following dayIn an email dated the following day, E told Ms Haywood that “nothing has shown up on the x-ray, so I am told it is likely to be sinusitis causing teeth nerves to be on edge.”  so WHY did the dentist not challenge this at the time if she knew it to be an abscess and in requirement of urgent treatment? A GP prescribed antibiotics for the sinus problem E believed her son had: “…and was examined by another dentist at a surgery near to Z House. Nothing abnormal was detected, although the notes of this examination produced in the course of the hearing indicated that E requested that no x-rays be taken. When seen by the oral hygienist at the family dental surgery on 4th September 2012, no signs of an abscess were detected. It was said in evidence that a hygienist would not be in a position to make such a finding.”  So she has taken him for several appointments during this period, there is no watertight explanation as to why she (purportedly) requested another x-ray was not given, but we know that too many x-rays are ill-advised due to radiation exposure and perhaps she had trusted what the previous dentist had told her and the interpretation of the previous x-ray results, as she understood them.  Would a mother knowingly covering up the abscess take their child for further appointments?  So you are accusing her of leaving her son in pain for 14 months, when she had been the one taking him for the check-ups and the dentist didn’t follow up when E put in writing she had been told it was sinusitis?

E also sent an email to Ms Haywood (the naturopath) saying: “This would not only explain the excruciating pain that [M] has experienced, and possibly on/off since October 2011 … that would have been horrendous for [M] to have had to cope with over the last year and just unbearable without intravenous pain relief.”   So clearly it was not her fault the delays happened and she had ensured he had regular pain relief whilst stating all the while that she knew something was wrong, yet lack of action by the dentist is blamed on E.

“It was at this meeting that the chief executive of X College – MH – first suggested that E’s behaviour was akin to “Munchausen by proxy.”   So a very rare psychiatric disorder, that is disputed [link] to exist by some experts, is “diagnosed” by an admin manager!

E seemed agitated and told the social workers that she had been giving M a hand and foot massage, although the social workers saw no signs of this on M.”  Is this for real? Who has “signs” of having had their hands and feet massaged and why is this some sort of indication of negative parenting!  E told them that they should not have visited; they should have made an appointment.”  This, along with many of the other comments, about her monologuing etc., to me says that she has Asperger’s syndrome straight away, in view of her general parenting style as well (dedicated and tenacious). So tell me how court psychiatrists instead found her to have personality disorders? This is shocking and clear evidence of high-functioning female presentation of ASC yet again being misunderstood.  The Equality Act 2010 states that reasonable adjustments must be made by all public bodies for people with ASC (or mental health issues), a reasonable adjustment in this case would have been not to misjudge her for her communication style!

No examination or assessment should be carried out without permission by his new GP.”  GPs are known to be autism ignorant, hence the RCGP has instigated plans [link] to address this precisely because it is a problem and many parents of autistic children as well as autistic adults struggle to even get referrals for ASC assessment, let-alone any co-morbid condition or health issues. Studies have shown that adults with ASC struggle to get health problems recognised and treated [link].  They are also called general practitioners for a reason.  Autistic people often struggle to identify problems with their own body and emotions, struggle to go to see their GP because of feeling intimidated or struggling to communicate and sometimes need a parent or someone who knows them very well to accompany them and help them to communicate with the GP.  Without this, their health needs can suffer.  So how this action will benefit M is highly doubtful and it is likely to in fact hinder him.

E stated that she is a very precise individual and passed on the information in a way that ensured clarity.” Another sign that she has Asperger’s.

“At the outset I was told by E that she had problems with communications attributable to a long-standing neurological condition.”  She may have all the symptoms of the condition and not been officially assessed or diagnosed, but be self-diagnosed, that doesn’t make her a liar. What she feels is down to a neurological condition is easily down to ASC.  Literalness is another sign of Asperger’s so she could have read the symptoms and decided it fit herself.  A liar is someone who knows something to be untrue but they say it anyway.

I found it difficult during the hearing to keep E on the point when she was cross-examining witnesses.”  Again, sounding like Asperger’s and it sounds as if his honour is suffering confirmation bias, because he didn’t understand E’s presentation, it was easy to build a picture against her along with the failure in understanding of the other parties and this has gone against her in a very discriminatory way.

“It is an elementary proposition that findings of fact must be based on evidence, including inferences that can properly be drawn from the evidence, and not on suspicion or speculation.”  I don’t believe that court is the place for inferences – that is assumption based on what it looks like (due to majority bias), but what it looks like isn’t always what it is!

“Eighth, it is not uncommon for witnesses in these cases to tell lies, both before and during the hearing. The court must be careful to bear in mind that a witness may lie for many reasons – such as shame, misplaced loyalty, panic, fear and distress – and the fact that a witness has lied about some matters does not mean that he or she has lied about everything – see R v. Lucas [1981] QB 720.”  This also applies to witnesses from the LA, clinicians etc. as many parents know!

…during the hearing I had the clear sense that she was relishing the opportunity to put across her case about which she plainly feels very strongly.” Again, another Asperger’s trait.

I have no doubts that E adores her son and her daughter, and that she has devoted much of her life to her children and, in particular, to getting the most that can be achieved for her son. Her devotion is not, however, selfless. On more than one occasion she said that this was case was about her and, although she was quick to retract that comment, when I pointed out that it was actually about M, there was no doubt that she felt she was the main focus of the inquiry. She was the centre of attention and, in my judgment, at times obviously enjoying the experience.”  It was about her too – it was about removing her parental rights, her rights to continue caring for the son she raised for 24 years and this is part of what directly affects her son! “enjoying the experience?” that is a subjective and biased comment which has no place in court.

It was E’s case that she had suffered from a neurological condition – vestibular neuritis …In her oral evidence she had no difficulty apparently recalling detailed events from many years ago. I have already observed that she showed no difficulty in communicating. Mr Bagchi submits that her suggestion that she had a memory problem was just a crude cover story to avoid criticism for her secret recordings. I agree.”  If E has Asperger’s, then his honour has a lot to understand about ASC communication. Someone can be very high-functioning and verbally superior even, but that doesn’t mean they don’t have deficits in communication, problems with working memory, difficulty focusing during verbal communication etc.

E used a number of tactics to avoid answering questions and ensure that the interview was focused on materials she considered important, including talking a great deal and without allowing interruption, providing emotive impressions which lacked concrete detail, and jumping from one topic to another. Dr Beck reported that she felt on occasion as if E had embarked on a monologue and she found that she had to be very firm and to interrupt her, and when she did interrupt her, E sometimes apologised and at other times protested, but invariably continued talking about whatever she wanted to talk about, without apparently being influenced by Dr Beck’s interruption. Dr Beck had the impression that E was keen to control the interview and that, if she reflected on this with her, E’s apologies were not genuine and she did not generally change her behaviour as a result.”  Yet again, hyperfocus is an Asperger’s trait, difficulty focusing during verbal communication is again, as is monologuing and digressing from the original point due to inserting much detail.

I can well understand why his family feel so strongly about him and want to do whatever they can to ensure that he gets the most out of life.”  And yet you will allow psychiatrists who likely have no understanding of ASC to brand her as having personality disorders, and claim she is a risk to him because she doesn’t fit into the LA tick-box?

“Dr Carpenter observed that most of the dietary and nutritional therapies given to M are ones that he has experienced with other patients over the years. He has not objected to them being used in most cases. He also observes that E appears to have normally sought professional help when using therapies; that she has not devised treatment protocols without advice.”  Yet you still made it a problem.

“Dr Carpenter also criticises E for failing to question the reason and purpose of any of the therapies or interventions used or seek unbiased evidence about their effectiveness.”  Yet conversely, patients are not expected to question medical treatments, which many times turn out to have bad side-effects and in some cases be the wrong treatment?  This is also very contradictory considering she is accused of being over-controlling, this is an instance where she has accepted what she was told by several practitioners and tried to assist her son based on their directions, not her own, so she wasn’t the one controlling the direction of treatments.  It is also claimed her son had 6 hours per day of oxygen treatment, how can this be possible if he was living in homes and attending college as well as having access to enriching activities?  Even if it went on while he was still at home, who is to say it didn’t happen while he was relaxing in the evenings?

It is the quantity and intensity of the supplements given to M that causes concern for Dr Carpenter rather than any single supplement.”  Really? So what if it was traditional medication that needed taking to the same degree? Double standards.

“The concern about the insistence of the diet in this case was, therefore, not so much about the use of the diet per se, (which is plainly not uncommon amongst people with autism, notwithstanding the clear view expressed in the NICE guidelines), but, rather, the fabricated diagnosis which led to the diet being imposed.”  Assumptions have led to the view that the diagnosis was fabricated. At worst, she could be considered highly tenacious and naïve, with a very direct communication style (none of which equal abuse) and at best, no different than many other devoted autism mothers out there – do they all have FII?

“Dr Carpenter notes, however, that most of the supplements appeared to have no known toxic overdose limit.”  Yet still, because you decided she lied about his conditions, this is problematic.

“By and large, it is the sheer range and number of the treatments and their indiscriminate use on an incapacitated person that gives rise to concern, rather than the risk of any harm befalling the individual.”  So it’s now a crime to have someone take a bunch of vitamins every day?

Regarding the assertion ofneurodevelopmental dysautonomia” not being in any recognised diagnostic manual, have a look here at familial dysautonomia which is a neurodevelopmental condition – for microscopic semantics you have branded her a liar again: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/14981733

M’s life was increasingly dominated by the programme of treatment to the exclusion of other activities.”  Are you sure? How is it then, that you describe his home life thus, in total contradiction of yourself:

I do not doubt the devotion which E and A feel for their son. In some ways his life at home was far richer than could possibly be achieved in any care setting. The range of activities arranged for him was plainly very stimulating and beneficial.”  So clearly the LA didn’t want to enrich his life the way his parents did and this is where the disputes have arisen, which therefore makes it look rather correct that as E said, they wanted to decide what to fund, to have control over it all. She is not the only person to take this view in the same situation.

Without exception, I accept the evidence of the social workers and care staff. Where their evidence conflicts with that given by E, I prefer their evidence and reject that given by E, and indeed A.”  Very unfair and biased judgement and a very slippery slope for human rights, justice and balance.  M’s loving and dedicated father is viewed as an “enabler” in much the same way as someone enabling a drug user.  His support of his wife is used as a criticism against him instead of a testament to her doing the right thing.  This is just appalling.  It is a classic example of the blame culture that exists in the state today.

Mr McKinstrie identifies several advantages of a return home. First, M clearly has a longstanding affectionate relationship with his parents and sister and they continue to be important people in his life. Furthermore, each is committed to M and in supporting him in what they consider to be his best interests.”  Yet still, you decided that purely on the basis of what are highly likely Asperger’s traits in the mother, which means she thinks somewhat differently and is hyperfocused on giving her son the best, because neither his honour nor the professionals understood this, you have branded her with at least two personality disorders she most likely does not have, and have decided that M must fit in with what the LA want and his own mother is a danger to him? The worst she could be accused of is being overzealous, but clearly has been well-meaning.  This is no reason at all to come between a mother and her son, bearing in mind he is stated to lack capacity, why would you deem her perfectly legal preferences as abuse or damaging?  Not knowing whether he would choose those preferences for himself does not mean it’s correct to assume that he wouldn’t.  Since when has failure to communicate well with professionals been a crime?  Where do you draw the line?  Are parents going to have rights removed for religious or cultural reasons?  For being vegetarians?  For parents who are on the autistic spectrum who also have autistic children needing support, this judgement is tantamount to being completely discriminatory against their specific style of communication.  This whole judgement is a farce and is a dark day for many out there, who have open-minds and don’t fit neatly into the boxes this nanny state would love to have everyone in and don’t blindly consider what the establishment says to be always correct.

Final note – his honour says:

“I merely observe that, if the parents’ assertion about conspiracies is correct, it would amount to gross misfeasance in public office and the biggest scandal in public care and social care in modern times.”

And that means that it can’t be so?  Absolutely not!  There have been multiple cases in the media of public organisations covering up, lying, withholding evidence and huge scandals – the very fact that the term ‘misfeasance in public office’ exists at all, proves that it happens.  I didn’t expect judges to be using straw man arguments or paradoxical statements.  The state is most certainly not above error as this judgement shows, nor corruption, as many have experienced.

Ehlers-Danlos syndrome and autism

Cortical Chauvinism

This is one in a series of blogs where I discuss different conditions manifesting autstic symptomatology of known origin or neuropathology (so-called syndromic autism). The first of these blogs was on tuberous sclerosis (http://bit.ly/17ExHYt ). The emphasis in all of these blogs is in the commonality of abnormalities in certain parts of the brain.  It is my belief that in autism there is a common lesion that interferes in some way with the division of germinal cells early during brain development. The end result is abnormalities in cell migration and malformed areas of the cerebral cortex and brainstem. You can find additional information about this process at:  http://bit.ly/1aM5KFu and http://bit.ly/136db0t In this blog I discuss the Ehlers-Danlos syndrome and some commonalities to idiopathic autism primarily in terms of brain pathology.

The Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS) is a group of inherited conditions that affect the connective tissues of the body. As the name…

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Autism and Deprivation of Liberty: The Shocking Tale of What the State is Doing

Deprivation of Liberty The Government created an Autism Act in 2009 for adults on the autistic spectrum.  Then it created an adults Autism Strategy (ironically entitled “Leading Fulfilling and Rewarding Lives”) in 2010, to remind authorities that there was an Autism Act and that they were meant to be adhering to it – just spelling it out sort of thing.  When people kept on reporting that things still weren’t being done as they were supposed to, despite the Act and the Strategy, the Government next created their “Think Autism” Strategy in 2014 just to remind them again (just how dense can these people be!).  What is all this achieving?  The Government can hold it’s hands up and say, “Look, we made a law for you, we did our bit, look how seriously we are taking this.”  …We all know what the term ‘lip service’ means though.

Some autistic adults are getting deflected when they seek referral for assessment via their GP, some are misdiagnosed in mental health services and pumped full of medication and then some that do get assessed for ASC are told “not enough traits for a diagnosis”.  You see, organisations love loopholes: loopholes let you avoid putting your hand in your pocket.  High-functioning adults don’t usually get any support even when they are diagnosed (and those that do, it’s not obtained without a fight).  Whereas lower-functioning autistic adults that may be unable to learn self-care, may be non-verbal, may have challenging behaviours and other difficulties, are much likelier to get interventions, but have something else to fear: the state taking over their lives totally.  The Autism Act is meant to protect and ensure the rights of all autistic adults, no matter their level of functioning – so that’s two big fails right there.  The Autism Strategy (backed up by statutory NHS NICE Guidelines) also states that all autistic adults must be provided with an ‘autism care pathway’.  This can include health professionals, housing, social care and any other discipline that needs to be involved.  After all, the Government created the Leading Fulfilling and Rewarding Lives Strategy specifically for autistic adults – and that means irrespective of their level of functioning.  How did we get to the options being pretty much, either zero support or total removal of control?  What does removal of control actually mean?  It means deprivation of liberty.  How is it in this day and age, in a supposedly cultured 21st century society, we are locking away autistic adults?

Misuse of the Mental Capacity Act 2005 (MCA) is prevalent, festering away under the surface of this supposedly enlightened society, with it’s legislation and laws.  There is a Code of Practice for the MCA, but like the Autism Act and the Autism Strategy, no-one is listening.  Who is policing this?  Nobody of course.  Corruption exists in the state, we all know that, it’s a very harsh fact of life – shouldn’t happen but it does.  But when vulnerable people are having their lives destroyed, people have to rise up against it.  The House of Lords has found that DoLs are being abused and the MCA is unfit for purpose, in March of this year.  Here are just a small handful of representative stories where autistic adults have been, or are due to be, deprived of their liberty:

It’s interesting that the following article states:

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/aug/05/councils-struggle-deprivation-liberty-tenfold-rise-mentally-vulnerable-patients

“Local authorities are struggling to cope with a tenfold increase in assessments of mentally vulnerable patients when hospitals or care homes want to deprive them of their liberty. A court ruling in March, increasing the number of patients protected under the Mental Capacity Act deprivation of liberty safeguards (DoLS), has seen assessments soar from just over 10,000 last year, to a predicted 94,000 this year, according to the Association of Directors of Social Services.”

Could this mean the motive is financial rather than the wellbeing of the person?  Of course, it’s not only autistic people this is happening to.  As in my previous blog post on state abuse, people with other invisible disabilities such as CFS/ME and connective tissue disorders such as Ehlers Danlos Syndrome are suffering this outcome too.  It’s almost undoubtedly happening to people with challenging behaviour, learning disabilities and mental health conditions which are being mismanaged by the state, resulting in difficulties for the individual which are more expeditious for the state to deal with that way.  Conditions that are not understood, or are fobbed off as ‘all in the mind’ or the fault of parents, are misrepresented as psychiatric conditions upon which the state will act as they see fit, often irrespective of evidence and facts to the contrary.  The system has a rotten core, or at the very least, is being manipulated for their own purposes by those who work within it.  But the system as it exists, closes down complaints, different regulatory organisations state “we do not investigate individual cases”, so where is recourse for people fighting for the rights of their loved ones?  If you are the parent of an autistic child who needs ongoing support and care, when that child reaches 18 you currently have no rights whatsoever.  The NAS will attest to this fact: http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/at-home/caring-and-planning-for-the-future/parents-of-adults-with-autism-your-rights.aspx

The trouble lies further with the secret courts, judges can be persuaded with cherry-picked and misrepresentative evidence, presented by local authorities.  Local authorities can pay psychiatrists to say what they need them to say.  I don’t pretend to know the whole shebang, but just what I have found out in the last few weeks, including the story of Isobel Moss (first link above) in the last couple of days, tells me there may well be a gravy train involved.  Anything can be got round by claiming that it is “not in the best interests” of the individual (the term ‘wide discretionary powers’ springs to mind here), incorrect professional opinions will go unchallenged and social services can manipulate and lie regarding parenting of the individual to make a case for the person to be deprived of their liberty.  This often means parental contact will be prevented.  So then who acts in the individual’s best interests or ensures that those interests are being upheld on a continued basis?  The parent has no say in whether their child is medicated and the health impact of side-effects of any medication unattended to, institutional abuse can be blamed on self-harm and that person is reduced to a shadow of what they could have been, with the right interventions and support (again, see Isobel Moss’s story).   Autism can bring challenging behaviour, but this doesn’t mean someone is mentally ill or lacking capacity.  Their behaviour could be due to illness, pain or sensory issues – and dare I say it, unhappiness in the environment the state has put them in.  So the state’s usual answer is to drug them up some more to make them compliant.  Quite apart from lives destroyed, deaths have occurred because of state interventions, so this cannot get any more serious:

When you know that vulnerable people are suffering this sort of abuse in care homes, you know how urgent it is that this injustice stops immediately: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2793220/more-100-000-abused-carers-year-cases-led-46-deaths.html

The Government must do something about abuse of, and breaking of, those laws which are meant to protect people, not imprison them.  Secret courts need to come out of the shadows and provide transparency.  Gagging orders help no-one except to protect miscarriages of justice from being revealed, authorities that really are acting in the best interests of individuals will have nothing to hide.Gagging OrderAbusing individuals’ rights regarding medication, restraint, forcible removal, forced adoptions, deprivation of liberty, state abuse and the rights of those that care for and love them is wrong, inhumane and has no place in a civilized society.  Everyone has the right to a voice, and for some, that means having someone speak for them, but that someone must be someone that disregards what is the easiest option for others and does not revolve around financial incentives or keeping people in business for the sake of it.   There are people who are considered low-functioning autistic, and in the wrong hands they could have had a different outcome than they were lucky enough to have.  Read the story of Carly Fleischmann, who despite being non-verbal and having behavioural problems is an articulate and intelligent young autistic woman who surprised everyone.  See the video about Carly: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=34xoYwLNpvw, imagine if she had been viewed as lacking capacity – which she could so easily have been, and been forcibly removed, medicated and deprived of her liberty?

If anyone is in this position with a loved one – whether it be forced adoption (whistleblower ex-SW on that link),  deprivation of liberty or any other form of state abuse, please contact Jan Loxley-Blount of Parents Protecting Children.  Jan along with several organisations and professionals, wrote to the Government (Right Hon David Cameron MP – Prime Minister, Right Hon Nick Clegg MP – Deputy Prime Minister, Right Hon Ed Miliband MP – Leader of HM Opposition, Right Hon Jeremy Hunt MP – Secretary of State for Health , Earl Howe – Parliamentary Under-Secretary of State, Department of Health) on 3rd September 2014, detailing the nature of the issue and calling for a meeting.  Let’s hope this is taken seriously.  You can also contact Isabelle Trowler the UK head SW for children or Lyn Romeo the UK head SW for adults, here: office.ofthechiefsocialworker@education.gsi.gov.ukDr Maggie Atkinson is the children’s commissioner for the UK and can be contacted here: info.request@childrenscommissioner.gsi.gov.uk.  If your loved one has had a deprivation of liberty order, the NAS has a page of information and there is a lot of helpful and relevant information regarding deprivation of liberty on the Alzheimer’s Society page which includes information on reviews of DOL decisions and helpful links.  You can obtain free legal advice about human rights here: http://lawworks.org.uk/?cID=10916  Don’t wait until it becomes too difficult to challenge decisions, usually there is a 12 month limit on complaints and appeals.  And remember…

Speak Out

The Injustice of State Abuse

1984 George Orwell The increasing paranoia and accusations against parents, of “emotional abuse” and even “potential for future emotional abuse” has taken hold of the nation.  No parent alive in the UK today, is safe from such accusations.  If you are a parent of special needs or disabled children, your risk increases.  If your child (or you as the parent) have what is termed as an invisible disability (such as autism), the risk shoots higher still.  Ignorance of the presentation of some conditions that are classed as invisible disability, means that behaviours and family dynamics can be misinterpreted.  Unwillingness to admit they got it wrong, causes professionals to dig their heels in further and continue on the path they have chosen.  Dr Nigel Speight a doctor specialising in ME, gave an interview with a Dutch presenter on his own experience of supporting families falsely accused this way.  The Government is aware of this issue, but is protecting professionals who commit such state abuse, there is no accountability for these professionals and the hypocrisy that they are falsely accusing parents, yet causing the very thing they accuse the parents of, cannot go unnoticed or unchallenged.

I read a blog today, about the so-called Cinderella law, which could see parents face up to 10 years in prison for “emotional abuse” of their children.  I am angered at the fact that many special needs children in school, mainstream especially, are being emotionally damaged by their experience in the school environment, but this is not only ignored but considered as normal and acceptable.  Let’s list some environmental factors that social services might consider emotionally damaging to a child and due to which they would intervene:

  • showing children films and videos that they are too young for and are traumatic to them
  • turning a blind eye to mistreatment of the child
  • denying the child their basic human rights to drink water and visit the toilet when they need
  • brushing off the child’s concerns that are distressing to them, thereby denying them a voice
  • punishing the child unfairly
  • forcing the child to become aware of things they are not emotionally ready for
  • ignoring the child’s special needs and not adapting their environment accordingly
  • ignoring and denying the voice of the child regarding all factors in their environment

Rightly, you would expect social services to question the child’s parenting and possible emotional abuse of the child wouldn’t you?  Now take on board the fact that this is a list of just some of the environmental factors schools subject children to on a daily basis.  Not only is this accepted by the state, but it is actively condoned.  A disability social worker actually said to me “we won’t say anything against a school” and this was witnessed by an independent person.  If a child was showing such distress over their home environment as they do over school, social services would view this as serious harm and remove the child.  Yet a very senior person in social care told me, that my distressed autistic daughter must “get used to it” because “it’s a tough world for these children out there”.  Would they use this same justification if a parent had been responsible?

So why is there such a massive double standard?  How is such state abuse condoned?  The above list represents the average school day, and doesn’t even go into the cases where physical abuse and neglect have occurred in care homes and schools by their staff.  There are never repercussions for guilty parties either.

The state can trump up charges of “emotional abuse” at whim.  Many parents are finding that fighting for provision and support for their special needs child, triggers these false accusations as a result.  Here is an Autism Eye article on this issue: http://media.wix.com/ugd/58c8f1_211d0efb4ae842f5aba2e2d5b1519d42.pdf  Children can be removed from their innocent natural family and placed in foster homes and care placements in which they actually do suffer abuse.

I am sick of the tired phrase bandied about by social workers and their defenders “damned if you do and damned if you don’t”.  It simply isn’t true.  Failings resulting in child deaths, such as Victoria Climbie and Baby P are a result of the culture in social services of preferring to target decent, innocent families to fill up their caseloads with, rather than undertake challenging work with families where there may be violence, drug abuse, alcoholism and as Dr Speight says, “they’d rather sit drinking a cup of tea with a nice family than get chased off an estate by someone with a rottweiler”.

“Emotional abuse” seems to be the ‘in thing’ with social services, families are being wrongly broken up, scarring the children and parents for life.  Some families fortunately get their children back: http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/council-unlawfully-took-autistic-teenager-4368205 but there must be many who don’t.  Secret courts and judges accepting biased and dishonest, cherry-picked and misrepresentative professional evidence without question, ensures that for many, there is no justice.

It’s not only about the moral panic prevalent within the UK, it’s about lack of understanding and corrupt professionals.  There must be no place in our society for such people to hold support roles.  Social workers do lie, I have direct experience of it.  They rest easy in the knowledge that they are untouchable, such that they have no compunction about doing so even when independent witnesses can verify they have lied.  It’s abuse of power and misfeasance in public office, not to mention contravention of the Data Protection Act 1998 and in some cases, breach of the Equality Act 2010.

Today I read an article: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-29459303 “Disabled Childrens’ Behaviour Deteriorates at School”.  When the child is high-functioning autistic, they may restrain their distress about school whilst there and release it at home where they feel safe to do so, females in particular.  This means that professionals assume that because the behaviour is happening at home, the problematic environment is in the home.  Yet, contradictorily, if the child acts out at school, they also assume the problem comes from the home environment.

When parents ask for their child to be assessed for autism, oftentimes the professionals they encounter will send them on parenting courses and look at their parenting instead of just getting on and assessing the child for autism or other issues so that they know what they are working with from the start.  This not only ensures delays to a child getting support and prolonged stress on the family, but wastes public resources.

The UK is supposedly a democratic society, a society where justice prevails and families are supported to stay together.  Instead, punitive control, misuse of power and abuse of human rights seem to be taking control steadily.  We must fight this, not become complacent, not wait until it happens to you, before you stand up and speak out.  So I’ll re-use a quote I have used before:

“The greater the power, the more dangerous the abuse”.

Connective Tissue Disorders & Their Correlation to Autism

plasticine man It seems for years that I have had problems with tiredness, from the age of seventeen came the bad lower back pain followed later by the aching knees and variety of other bodily pains.  You can live day-to-day with aches and pains that drag you down, but aren’t yet entirely debilitating enough to seek medical help for, you kind of think everyone probably has this issue.  Of course I did intermittently go to the GP with inexplicable tiredness and exhaustion over the years, sometimes blood tests were done, but they always came back with nothing of concern.  It wasn’t until very recently I found out about a connective tissue disorder known as Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and began researching, that it all started to add up.  I realised I had a huge host of the symptoms, one of which is many problems with the gastro-intestinal tract.

I knew that people with autism often have GI problems, scientists also know it, but no-one has been joining up the dots. Medicine and science often seem to identify symptoms and identify and treat them standalone, which of course never gets to the root of the problem, never finds out what is causing the symptoms, or doesn’t do so in a systemic way and match up seemingly disparate symptoms.  Two days ago, after being yet again entirely failed by the NHS (rheumatology department failing to diagnose me, not to mention the arrogant GP who was dismissive and highly reluctant to refer me in the first place and ensured the rheumatologist treated me with the level of disrespect and dismissiveness many of us have become accustomed to with the NHS), I was privately diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome.  Before I received my diagnosis, I had researched the seemingly anecdotal connection between EDS and ASC.  ‘There must be some research out there’, I thought.  My youngest child was already diagnosed as hypermobile by our local OT and I can see clear signs of it in my oldest child, they are both on the autistic spectrum too, both conditions are genetic, so there had to be a connection. Sure enough, although the research seems to be still in its infancy, I found it:

1) “High-functioning autistic disorder with Ehlers-Danlos syndromehttp://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1440-1819.2011.02262.x/full

2) “Autism and Ehlers Danlos Syndrome” http://www.pubfacts.com/detail/1537777/Autism-and-Ehlers-Danlos-syndrome (download full paper from that link)

Here is another article on the effect of EDS on the brain (which also refers to autism, along with proprioception issues and sensory difficulties):
3) “Brain structure and joint hypermobility: relevance to the expression of psychiatric symptoms” http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3365276/
Here is an article which discusses the “Underdiagnosed” condition of EDS :
4) (see 5.5 Psychiatric Features) “Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, Hypermobility Type: An Underdiagnosed Hereditary Connective Tissue Disorder with Mucocutaneous, Articular, and Systemic Manifestations” http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3512326/
I have read a lot of anecdotal evidence about families with ASC and EDS – isn’t it time science and medicine properly joined up the dots?  I mean even in the article above (3), they state “Differences in the structural integrity of temporal and parietal cortices may underlie wider behavioural phenotypical expression of hypermobility: abnormalities in superior temporal cortex are also seen in autism.11 so they aren’t actually making a strong enough link, they seem to think the two conditions share the same brain changes but not that they are intertwined in some way and that perhaps EDS is even causative of ASC.  So basically there is an elephant in the room…joining the dots elephant…and no-one is bothering to properly join the dots.

It’s high time that science caught up, if we understand connective tissue disorders we may get to understand autism better and perhaps, genes in common can be identified which could lead to understanding causation. Thought for the day:

“For every effect there is a root cause.  Find and address the root cause rather than try to fix the effect, as there is no end to the latter.”

~ Celestine Chua

Edited 28.5.16 to add:

Two genes which may connect the two conditions are ADAMTS2 and TNXB.  Seen on Pinterest –

Pinterest EDS and ASD genes

Just Brimming with Stimming! (An Expert’s Guide for the Layperson)

Stimming “Stimming”, “stims” – or stereotypies as they are correctly known, are a variety of habits which people on the autistic spectrum indulge in.  It’s more than a habit that an NT would have, it’s like a compulsion, and it can increase at times of stress and also at times of excitement or happiness.

Stims range from twirling one’s hair, fiddling with an object, to noises and whole body movements.  Often the more severely on the spectrum someone is, the more obvious their stimming will be.  The higher-functioning among us will often hide our stims, we are well aware “other people” don’t do it, we are busy masking and trying to fit in, so many of us will do our stims in the privacy of our own homes, like some shameful secret.

Wouldn’t it be nice, if we could stim all over the place without anyone minding!  However, it’s hard enough “pretending to be normal” in the words of Liane Holliday-Willey, without drawing additional attention to ourselves.  Some stims might be small enough to do in public without anyone noticing, in which case, lucky person!  I think if you need to stim, holding it all in until you get home might result in the necessity for a long stimming session (ooer missus!) to regain one’s equilibrium.  Jokes aside, stims really can be satisfying, like a refreshing cup of tea, or changing into your comfy PJs.  For me, my stims (which are pretty unobtrusive as stims go, but some of them would still be noticed by others all the same) are a way of releasing stress, but also they are part of me, I need to do them just like I need to blink or yawn, and I do them when I am relaxed also.  The stim I have had for the longest, since childhood, I thought everyone did until I got bigger and started noticing they didn’t and then learned to hide it.

Stims are fine, so long as they don’t (1) involve injury to anyone or are (2) out of keeping with manners and propriety.  Therefore it’s strange that we should feel the need to hide them, but people can be cruel and mean, and target people who show differences.  Difference means you aren’t part of the tribe, you might be a threat, at the very least, you are weak and a potential object of ridicule.

Do all autistic people stim?  No.  My youngest child doesn’t appear to stim whatsoever, although she does twirl her hair round her fingers sometimes, something she used to do a lot as a toddler, but gradually grew out of.  My other child stims, but she also doesn’t do it much in front of people, even the family.  I wonder whether stimming has a connection to the OCD behaviours many autistics have, because coincidentally, myself and my child that stims, both have OCD behaviours.   OCD is a compulsion, and apparently there are brain differences in people with OCD too, so maybe there is a connection.  Although, as I have posted earlier in my blog, there could well be a difference between OCD in autism and OCD in non-autistic people, so that could get confusing.

Parents and teachers and other responsible adults should not try to stop stimming in an autistic child, providing they meet (1) and (2) above.  To do so will place stress on the child and it’s about their needs not yours.  Don’t feel you need to be embarrassed if your child stims when you are out and about.  As you will know as a parent of an autistic child, there are already enough reasons you have learned not to meet the eyes of people staring when your child is behaving atypically compared to NT children.  If you can survive a meltdown from your child, you can survive a stim!

So there you have it, that explains stims, for all those who were curious or just felt like absorbing some information you didn’t already know.

Thought for the day…

Good habits formed at youth make all the difference.

~ Aristotle

“Not Enough Traits for a Diagnosis”

Jeremy Hunt MP Jeremy Hunt, MP and Secretary of State for Health There is a creeping, insidious problem oozing it’s way through the NHS.  It is the failure to diagnose autism spectrum condition in people with autism.  The new claim is “some traits of autism but not enough for a diagnosis”.  Parents are being told that if their child is coping at school then they don’t need a label, schools are reporting that the child doesn’t show any obvious signs and this prevents a diagnosis being forthcoming.  Adults are brushed off without a diagnosis because they have managed to learn how to fit in – they still of course have autism/Asperger’s, but they are prevented from getting recognition of their difficulties and accessing support they need. I believe there is a secret directive to avoid diagnosing as many people as possible, or only to diagnose the most obvious cases, to avoid a drain on NHS and other state resources*.  This is of course ridiculous and unfair.  Not all people with diagnoses, or their parents, claim benefits or support – but if people need it, it should be there for them.  Autism is a condition the difficulties of which fluctuate according to the environment, and also presents differently in certain environments – such as a clinical one, so what appears one way in a given situation, may not be the full picture.

In December 2014 I became aware of this, which really goes to confirm my suspicions: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2653518/32billion-bill-autism-Britain-costliest-condition-Total-cost-treatment-care-support-heart-disease-cancer-strokes-combined.html

Yes, the NHS is cash-strapped, and yes there are many competing demands – so the Government has to ruddy well put more money in to cover the demand.  Autism is not going away, it’s likely an epigenetic condition and the population in general is rising, so there are more cases of autism.  Failure to diagnose is short-sighted, because without support people end up with a whole raft of problems which in the longer term can end up causing more of a drain on resources than the one the NHS/state were trying to avoid in the first place! It’s bad enough that the NHS is full of arrogant clinicians, many of whom are not fully versed in autism as a condition, who fail people diagnostically every day, but when you add a furtive intention to deliberately fail to diagnose people to save money, the system is entirely broken. Autistic people can, with the right support, contribute to society in all sorts of ways, what about Leading Fulfilling and Rewarding Lives?  How can we be able to do that in the first place if the NHS is failing to diagnose people? Read this document, which I came by today (and was eternally grateful for having done so), it’s an absolutely excellent article/paper about those who fail to get diagnosed, are considered “mild” or just having some autistic traits:Invisible at the End of the Spectrum: Shadows, Residues, ‘BAP’, and the Female Asperger’s Experience” So it’s important that the NHS gets it’s priorities right, trains it’s clinicians adequately, and provides the service so many of us pay for.

Edited 18 months after writing this post, following the discovery that the NAS admits there is a directive not to diagnose autistics: http://www.autism.org.uk/about/diagnosis/criteria-changes.aspx

“In the UK we are aware of situations where clinical professionals have felt under pressure from their employers to under-assess needs in order to ration limited resources.”

Also to add, that is it any surprise there are gross failures towards adults despite the Autism Act?  Shockingly, according to the DoH statutory guidance, authorities’ provision of a diagnostic pathway; adhering to the NHS NICE Guidance on assessing adults with autism and triggering of post-diagnostic assessment of needs, only come under the “should” category, which means, despite the Autism Act 2009, nobody will be held to account if they don’t ensure these are in place and working for all relevant adults.  So misdiagnosis or missed diagnosis, which are all too common, will keep on happening.  What incentive will there be when autism is the most expensive diagnosis to support and bodies are trying to save money?

Thought for the day:

“Each of us is a unique strand in the intricate web of life and here to make a contribution.”

~ Deepak Chopra

10 Myths About Autism

myth busting  There is such a lot of ignorance about autism around, I blame the Government for not raising awareness with public service announcements, lack of realistic representations in the media and lack of training for those who need to have the awareness.

Here are some of those myths:

  1. Autistic people have no/severely impaired theory of mind – utter tosh, read this article: http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2006-02/uow-eqp021606.php;
  2. Autistic people have no empathy – there are several types of empathy: cognitive – being aware/accepting of, the feelings and views of others, affective – also known as sympathy, are two of those types and whilst we may have some impairment in cognitive empathy we most definitely have sympathy http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3494975/;
  3. Autistic people do not have feelings/show affection – we may show them differently at times, but I can assure you we most definitely have them and and whilst some people on the spectrum dislike hugs for sensory reasons, many of us are very huggable on our own terms;
  4. Autistic people do not love – we can love intensely, see the Intense World Theory of autism to see how we may actually experience the world more deeply than NTs https://medium.com/matter-archive/the-boy-whose-brain-could-unlock-autism-70c3d64ff221 and some spectrumites even have a person as the object of their special interest (we’re not talking stalkers here!):
  5. Autistic people do not get married or have families – where do you think all the autistic children are coming from! Many have autistic parents and it is largely a genetic/epigenetic condition, what is clear is that divorce rates can be high among ASC/NT marriages but then they are high in the general population too;
  6. Autistic people are violent – we are no more violent than anyone else, meltdowns are a state of overwhelmedness not aggression or violence and like everyone else, we are also a product of our upbringing, environment and life experiences, do not confuse us with sociopaths and psychopaths.  In fact, people on the spectrum are more likely to fall victim to violence than the average person.  (There can be co-morbid conditions such as ADHD which can make an autistic child especially, tending towards aggression but autism itself does not cause violent tendencies);
  7. Autistic people are mostly male – my belief is that the real ratio is actually 1:1. Because diagnostic criteria were researched and written on males, they do not take into account female presentation of the condition and therefore many females have failed to get diagnosed.   Slowly awareness is rising (although still not anywhere near good enough) and diagnoses of females are increasing, with clinics such as the UK Lorna Wing Centre currently estimating the ratio at 2.5:1 even though the official UK statistics are often quoted at their lowest, at 4:1;
  8. Autistic people all have learning disabilities/low IQ – even at the lowest functioning end of the spectrum, whilst the individual can appear to be locked into their own world and non-verbal, they can still be intelligent (look up Carly Fleischmann). To have an Asperger’s diagnosis you must have an IQ of >70 and they don’t call Asperger’s the geek syndrome for nothing – but that doesn’t mean we are all savants either, pro rata I would guess that people with AS/HFA number as overall more intelligent than the average population of NTs;
  9. Autistic people cannot hide their condition – at the higher functioning end, many of us (especially females) mask our condition – at great expense to ourselves. In fact, it is the higher-functioning autistics that end up with the most risk of anxiety and depression out of all autistic people, due to self-awareness and feeling forced to fit in with society and not getting any support for their condition;
  10. Autism is a mental illness – this is utterly false, it is a neurodevelopmental/neurobehavioural condition, in which the brain is wired slightly differently. It is not a mental illness and it’s a shame that assessment and diagnosis of the condition usually falls under the mental health services umbrella because this perpetuates the myth. In mental health services, people encounter psychiatrists and psychologists who may legally be qualified to assess and diagnose ASC, but are often not experienced or well-trained in it and therefore many adults end up wrongly in the mental health system, misdiagnosed and wrongly medicated, which sadly can in itself produce mental ill-health as a result.

So, Jeremy Hunt, MP and Secretary of State for Health – when are you going to start doing something about the lack of autism awareness?

CAMHS and autism: A story in pictures…

They say a picture speaks a thousand words, so this post will be telling a story in pictures…

THE CLAIM…

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AND THE REALITY…

useless at job (CAMHS)useless at job (CAMHS) 3useless at job (CAMHS) 2useless at job (CAMHS) 4waiting list incompetence incompetence 2CBToverpaid This is a story of thousands of children on the autistic spectrum, not getting their needs met, by a service that is unfit for purpose.  The NAS website has documents entitled “You Need To Know…” regarding evidence on this problem, as reported by thousands of parents UK-wide.

The UK Government is undertaking a Parliamentary Select Committee review on this national disgrace that is CAMHS: http://www.parliament.uk/business/committees/committees-a-z/commons-select/health-committee/inquiries/parliament-2010/cmh-2014/

Thought for the day (and  this one is directed at CAMHS):

Your Job

The “square peg into a round hole” mentality and it’s value to autistics

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There seems to be an overwhelming desire in all areas of life, to make people with autism fit into a neuro-typical (NT) way of being.  Apparently it’s better for us to be like NTs.  It applies to how we are socialised, educated, and how as adults, we work.  There is an all-pervading view, that autistic children must be exposed as much as possible, to the same levels of socialising as their NT peers, to make them like it and get used to it – and because “it’s good for them”.  NT parents don’t always realise, that doing this won’t necessarily help their child and can actually cause much unhappiness and discomfort.  Most parents are only trying to do what they believe is best, but an NT parent can in some cases struggle to be in tune with their child in the way they need.  Sometimes of course, they are working from bad advice from professionals too.  I read on an autism forum, how a parent (who is themselves on the spectrum) tried to expose their autistic daughter to as many sleepovers and socialising events as possible when she was younger and how once the daughter reached young adulthood, it hadn’t done her daughter any favours.  Because as an ASC female she had good masking skills which may have been further honed by her typical life experiences, to the point that she could pass as NT, but suffered internally because she still has the same autistic experience as a person on the spectrum who isn’t good at masking their condition – yet feels pressured to hide her true self.

Many autistic children, having experienced a full day at school, are exhausted and want quiet time, to be alone or to find their own ways to de-stress.  Insisting on putting that child in after school clubs, visiting friends/having friends or relatives round, or going to activities after school, or having sleepovers can overwhelm the child.  Don’t forget they will have been interacting and socialising all day at school, the very thing that is challenging and tiring for them, so it’s perfectly fine if they don’t want to do yet more.  Not all children on the spectrum act out their distress either, the passive autistic can internalise it and end up depressed and self-harming as a way of dealing with their internal state.  They will have endured sensory input all day and are being asked to endure yet more.  An autistic person’s ears can actually feel more sensitive by the evening, be less tolerant of sound, as if they have reached their input limit and need a rest.

Being high-functioning and having good masking skills (as I have posted on my blog before) is actually a curse in many ways.  Because not only does society pressure you to fit in and be “normal” but you pressure yourself too because your intelligence allows you to notice your differences and that level of self-awareness brings inhibitions.  It’s not something you want to do – to go round explaining to all and sundry “Actually I am autistic, so sorry if I don’t act the same way you do, or do anything you might consider odd, just so you know.” to let yourself off the hook to be yourself.  It’s a hard thing to deny your whole being, by acting in a certain way.

Some children and adults with ASC retreat to their room and are content to just sit on the computer for instance, or pursue a special interest alone.  Parents especially, can worry about this and think they must encourage the individual out of their room to participate more in the world.  But sometimes, that is enough for that individual at that time.  Quiet and solitary activities are often the autistic person’s way of sorting out the jumble in their head from their day, and strengthening themselves to carry on for the next one.   It’s valuable time for us.  Many of us live in a very internal world, and solitary activities can allow the space to think through events of the day and make sense of them.  Some spectrumites want to socialise and are upset at their difficulties it’s true, but not all.  It’s wise to ask the person what they want, and if they make it clear they are struggling, then offer support on their terms.  Don’t feel it’s OK to make them like NT peers and force them into things they just don’t want.  Some people on the spectrum are at risk of becoming isolated if they are not supported and encouraged, but that’s a different thing than making someone do things just because it’s your view of what is normal.

I was not diagnosed until I was an adult, I went to mainstream school and was made to do all the things my peers did.  It did not change my coping abilities or limits, whatsoever.  I still struggle in communication, I still often prefer to be indoors alone, I go out and do things on my own terms and usually only when I feel I’ve had enough days indoors, being quiet.  If I start trying to fit too many things in, or pressure myself to keep up with everyone else, I quickly become exhausted and need days to recover afterwards, so it’s counter-productive.

Teaching socialising skills is a positive thing, it is known that early interaction is very beneficial to autistic children, but that still doesn’t mean that the individual will have the desire to interact to the same level as NT peers.  Sometimes, you need to let someone just “be”.  Listen to the quiet voice of what they are telling you.  It’s better to help provide the skills the person needs, but also understand they have a choice and can be very instinctive about what their own needs are.  Meltdowns are a child’s (or adult’s) way of communicating that they are in a situation that is too much for them or they have reached their limits.  So do listen to those meltdowns.  Perhaps it’s not that you are doing the wrong things for that child, but that you are just going about them the wrong way.

Mainstream schools sadly, educate autistic children in a way that means making them comply as much as possible to NT styles.  It doesn’t necessarily work for autistic children.  It’s not about making children on the spectrum “fit for society”, it’s time adjustments were made in society to allow autistics to be accepted on their own terms.  We are at least 1% of the population and rising.  In the US autism rates are now 1 in 50  and the UK rates are likely higher than is officially recorded because the NHS is very slow to diagnose females and seems to have set the bar too high, as in many cases they are failing to diagnose people (citing “autistic traits but not enough for a diagnosis”).  So as such a large minority, ought society not be adapting to us?  They put wheelchair ramps and disabled toilets in for physically disabled people, induction loops for the deaf and crossings have textured paving for the blind and partially sighted.  What about us?  It’s discriminatory to believe that an invisible disability is less deserving of accommodations and the law says we are entitled to them in many instances – but we need it across the board.

I have just returned from taking my eldest daughter to a medical appointment.  I told them she was autistic and they could see she was anxious.  When she had to have x-rays she started asking a lot of questions, clearly needing reassurance – which I was giving her, but the radiologist started getting snappy and saying “well I’m not going to force anyone and I have someone else to see” instead of recognising that she just needed to answer a series of questions my daughter needed to ask, to be reassured.  Where was that small accommodation?  She clearly didn’t understand autism and expected my daughter to be like an NT child and attributed her need for reassurance to her not being prepared to undergo the x-rays – in which case she wouldn’t bother.

I want to be me.  I don’t want to be a cultivated and exhausting version of me that suits everyone else.  I don’t want to be something I’m not and fear judgment and derision by society for being different.  That’s what all autistic people want.  We don’t want to hide behind a mask.  We will always be square pegs, so start making some square holes for us because as you can see from the picture above, when you force a square peg into a round hole, we end up broken.

(And just imagine, if rates of autism keep growing, NTs could end up in the minority – and who will be asking for adjustments then?)

Thought for the day:

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Petition to make it a prosecutable offence for state & social care employees to make false records regarding patients

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Petition to make it a prosecutable offence for state & social care employees to make false records regarding patients

This is an issue which particularly affects people such as those on the autistic spectrum, who are often misunderstood and misrepresented by GPs, mental health workers and other health care and social care professionals, which can have far-reaching effects on their lives and those of their families.  Sadly, there are state workers who abuse their position of power and they are not held accountable for these gross breaches.  It’s time for this to stop.  Autism is not a mental health problem, it is a neurodevelopmental difference.  Autistic behaviours are not behaviours of mental illness.  The system protects state employees who commit these abuses, which they sometimes do because they take the position that no-one will believe the patient due to their condition.  False attribution of mental health conditions to those who don’t have them, is appalling and must be stopped.  The only current recourse outside of court, is to complain resulting in annotation BUT NOT AMENDMENT of your records, which can easily be made to look as if you are just a sour individual who doesn’t agree with their truthful entries.  This is a travesty and such records follow people for their lives and any other professional looking at those records later will draw conclusions based on what they read, and there is no guarantee they will read any annotation the patient has submitted.  For someone who is a parent, those records can be used to destroy their family.  Under the Data Protection Act 1998 it is an offence to keep records that are not accurate and factual, but this law is not being adhered to by many state employees.  It is time justice was done on this issue.

Please see this link showing why there is a need to sign this petition and protect us all.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2318034/As-patients-wrongly-branded-drunks-heavy-smokers-Alzheimers-victims–Are-doctors-writing-lies-medical-notes-line-pockets.html

Autism Truth ~ a poem

Image  It’s a place of confusion, this world around
Not “getting” others, commonly found
Feeling misunderstood and not knowing why
Not seeing others eye-to-eye

Like an alien being, lost in their midst
Feeling communication stutter and twist
Telling the truth, such hostility abounds
They want lies and cover-ups to do the rounds

How strangely they judge from a mistaken stance
No capacity for any face value acceptance
You can’t be for real, or are mentally defective
Because they cannot see, your honest perspective

These games they play, like tricks and deceit
Is par for their course, is no big feat
What is it you want, or what can they get
Can’t they see, this is so wrong yet

In my mind I have a different place
I can retreat to when, I can’t take the pace
It’s a spiritual plane, evolved and knowing
Whilst all around this mad world is blowing

There is wrongness out there in all its forms
I will never, to their ways conform
There’s a purpose to this, a meaning to come
One day all the wrongness will be undone

Autism Unawareness

Lesser_hedgehog_tenrec_Echinops_telfairi Meet the “hedgehog” tenrec, which isn’t a hedgehog and is more closely related to the elephant.  It lives on Madagascan islands, where there are no hedgehogs – and if you saw a tenrec, your first reaction would be to think that it was indeed a hedgehog.  The tenrec is one of many examples the world over, of convergent evolution.  There are also a variety of creatures that evolve to mimic other creatures to avoid being eaten, and can naturally be mistaken for the real thing.  You may wonder why this subject is appearing on an autism blog, of all places.  It’s because of the widespread problem people on the autistic spectrum face, in being misdiagnosed and mistaken by health professionals as having mental illnesses.  It isn’t always what it may first appear to be and assumptions are dangerous.

I will give you some examples I have recently faced myself, with my (now ex) GP who had such abysmal lack of autism awareness it beggared belief.  I have always talked rapidly, not necessarily the whole time, but episodically.  It isn’t necessarily a stress reaction, sometimes I just have a lot to say and need to get it out before I forget what it was I was saying.  The perils of verbal communication.  Rapid speech is a known feature in autism.  And yet I was automatically considered mentally ill with severe anxiety with this trait being termed “pressure of speech” being used as justification by this GP.

Likewise, my habit of wearing earplugs on a cord around my neck, to protect my ears in the event of environmental noise due to auditory hypersensitivity (another known sensory issue in autism) this was listed as a reason for some sort of mental health problem.  This GP spent a long time falsely attributing my Asperger’s traits to mental health issues and circulating his opinion within a professional network.  This is a service failing of massive proportions.  Not only did he fail to understand my ASC traits as such, but he refused to provide me simple reasonable adjustments in accessing the surgery, in direct contravention of the Equality Act 2010 and the Health & Social Care Act 2008.  I did my best to educate him, by providing him with links and quotes regarding legal responsibilities on the practice, but it was ignored.  Instead of doing his duty, he falsely recorded details of consultations and misattributed my traits to severe anxiety.  This led to highly inappropriate and unwarranted referrals because he decided that as a parent, this meant my children were at risk, without any cause.

Both my children are on the autistic spectrum.  They are intelligent, extremely loved, very well-parented, clean and healthy children.  I had chosen to home-educate them for a period, before they were diagnosed as they were unhappy at school and the younger child was not coping there.  On the basis of me home-educating, (with, by my own choice, local authority approved provision) and without asking me any questions regarding how it was going and what we did for socialising opportunities, he jumped to erroneous conclusions, decided I was mentally ill with severe anxiety and whipped up a frenzy in the professional network.  I knew nothing at the time, only finding out much later when he telephoned me and accused me of exaggerating my eldest child’s school difficulties and of causing both children’s anxiety, ignoring documented evidence from my daughter herself and professionals she had reported it to, that it was her school causing her distress.  My eldest child hadn’t yet got her diagnosis, she had recently returned to school and was being bullied there and they were not supporting her anywhere near adequately, they were in fact reducing the level of support she got which was already only lip service.  She was having massive meltdowns every day after school, begging me to to remove her from the place that was causing her such distress.  In over 70% of autistic people, there are additional conditions, with anxiety being one of them.  This GP even asked my daughter herself whether I was causing her anxiety!  She said to me afterwards “It’s not you causing me anxiety, it’s the other way round.” in reference to me dealing with her frequent school-related meltdowns and supporting her.

In the meantime, this GP was calling multi-disciplinary meetings with professionals, again unknown to me at the time, citing potential for emotional harm from me to my daughter, because he was so determined to paint me as a neurotic, mentally ill person.  And bear in mind, that he knew that I had a diagnosis of Asperger’s syndrome.  Her persisted so much with this unprofessional, ill-judged and almost unhinged behaviour, that he was having an effect on other professionals who started to believe him, even with professional evidence available of what my daughter was going through at school being the cause of her difficulties.  The stress and trouble he caused for our family was enormous.  All because he was unaware about autism, and couldn’t think any differently from what his neurotypical, blinkered, text book mentality told him.  And all the time he was continuing this way, he delayed my child getting the right support because he had everyone barking up the wrong tree as to the cause of her difficulties.  Everything I was saying, was proven to be true because my daughter was telling clinical professionals what a terrible time she was having at school, and still I got no apology.

I subsequently found out he had made false recording on my health records when I got copies, and lied about his accusations against me.  He had even made false accusations against me of “hounding” him that he circulated to a network of professionals, because I sent him 2 emails on his NHS email address – which I checked with NHS PALS was OK to use and that it was secure.  I believe he had some sort of personality disorder to behave the way he did, which coupled with his autism unawareness was a recipe for disaster.  The shame and further injustice of it is, that I reported him to the regulatory bodies that ought to take action, and they refused – citing his “opinion” was not something they could challenge!  Never mind the lies he told, false recording he did and unprofessional comments to other professionals about me or his actions delaying my daughter receiving the right support.  And he has withheld some copies of records for the spurious reasons relating to his false interpretations of Asperger’s traits and trumped up safeguarding claims, because of his already disproven emotional harm accusations.

So you see, autism awareness isn’t just about people out there not knowing what autism means, when it’s professionals that have the power to wreak havoc on families and actually cause the very thing they are mistakenly attributing your autistic traits to – anxiety – it’s about huge injustices and abuse of power and something has to be done about this.  So my thought for the day is this:

the-greater-the-power-the-more-dangerous-the and I’ll throw this in for good measure: “Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” ~ Isaac Asimov

Females with Autism – The Tragedy of Ignorance

girl-on-path  It’s been known about for a while now, but still nothing is done about it.  The diagnostic criteria for autism were all researched on only males with the condition.  So why, we must ask, bearing in mind the recent revision of the DSM, did they not revise those criteria with this evidence in mind?  The ICD is also currently under revision, no doubt the WHO will ignore this glaring anomaly too.  Autism isn’t the only condition in which females present differently.  To my surprise, recent research showed me that this is the case with ADD/ADHD and bipolar too (but then of course they are genetically related to autism).  They say “it’s a man’s world” and in many ways it still is.  Females are suppressed, ignored and mistreated in religion, culture, employment, so it’s not too much of a stretch to point out the misogyny present in the medical profession too.  You can’t be autistic – you are a girl, just a hysterical/neurotic woman, mindset.

The NAS has information on autism in females, and research is out there highlighting that females are more able to mask their difficulties, more likely to be compliant, less likely to act out in the way males do, as well as having better compensatory abilities and yet so many females still struggle to get diagnosed with autism due to the stereotypical beliefs that prevail among clinicians.  So many autistic females are misdiagnosed too, with disorders such as anorexia (anorexia rates are higher in autistic females so clearly the cause of anorexia is not being looked at adequately), BPD and generalised/social anxiety.  Some research claims that females are genetically protected from autism and that this is why the rates are at least 4:1 for males to females.  I dispute this, I personally believe there is no difference in the rates of autism between males and females, it’s just recognition that is the issue.  In this research, it states: “Instead of focusing on specific male risk factors, our focus needs to change to understanding how the male and female brain differ and what that means for autism risk,” and “A lot of what we do in research and intervention are things we have learned from researching boys, and this needs to be addressed,” says Ami Klin, chief of autism and related disorders at the Marcus Autism Center at Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia. He points out that girls are often excluded from studies.  There is also an interesting article in the SEN magazine here.

Here is a media article about how girls with autism are being failed and the gender bias that exists.  So why, when there is so much evidence out there of this problem, are autistic girls being ignored?  As a female parent on the autistic spectrum myself, with two autistic daughters, two of us faced much difficulty in obtaining diagnosis.  The clinical expertise is just not there, and it astounds me that UK clinicians are not kept up-to-date with latest developments in autism research.

Girls are diagnosed later than boys when they do get diagnosed, often meaning years of struggling in the school system without support for their difficulties.  The later you are diagnosed the more likely you are to suffer mental health difficulties.  Females are so much less likely to be referred for assessment: http://www.examiner.com/article/girls-with-asd-suffering-silence “Although there has been a dramatic increase in the number of children diagnosed with autism spectrum disorders (ASD) over the past decade, statistics indicate that boys are being referred and identified in far greater numbers than girls (Attwood, 2006; Wagner, 2006). In fact, referrals for evaluation of boys are approximately ten times higher than for girls (Attwood, 2006).”

I wonder, how many times someone who suspects they are autistic, is assessed and not diagnosed (assuming correct diagnostic outcome).  I would imagine the numbers are infinitesimally small.  So would females be asking to be assessed without reason?  I was once asked, having said I felt different from other people, how would I know that.  That’s the weirdest question.  You can’t really explain something like that you just know, from watching and listening to others, their views, experiences, interactions etc. that you are not like them.

The biggest problem for many autistic females is that they internalise their difficulties, they are passive.  In the education system this means they are model pupils, they don’t disrupt the class and just fade into the background, so no problem – right?  This is why so many autistic girls end up with anxiety, depression, anorexia, self-harming, school phobia.  The more years you go undiagnosed, the harder it gets.  By the time a girl hits secondary school the social expectations soar and the concurrent decline in their ability to cope becomes greater.  Primary school is relatively easy.  If your daughter doesn’t have a close clique of friends it’s easier to disguise as they are all running around playing randomly at that age, friendships can be fickle.  But in secondary school, the playing subsides and it’s all hanging together in gangs gossiping and bantering, and someone with autism finds that extremely difficult, so their differences are highlighted meaning they become a target for bullies.

Lorna Wing described sub-types of Asperger’s: active-but-odd, passive, aloof and stilted.  I once did a poll of Asperger’s females on a forum and so many said they fit the passive* sub-type.  This would lead to the logical conclusion that there are many undiagnosed females out there.  If the parent doesn’t realise their child’s traits could be autism and the school doesn’t pick up on it (parents often rely on schools to point out where their child is having difficulties and advise regarding referrals and interventions) then the child misses getting diagnosed.  Boys on the spectrum will often be more aggressive and schools will then want something done about the disruption of their classes.

So why did the DSM ignore this issue?  It’s bad enough that they removed Asperger’s as a diagnosis – even Autism Speaks published a study declaring that Asperger’s is a distinct form of autism, so overall more people will struggle to get diagnosed with ASC, but as females are already at a great disadvantage in having their condition recognised, this is compounded and the problem will not get resolved unless action is taken over the diagnostic criteria and training of clinicians.  There are countries outside of the USA that use the DSM, including sometimes in the UK.  The ironic thing is, that females with autism pass on the genetics to their children (I know others outside of my own family) and research has also identified the womb environment as contributing to autism, and yet females are tragically ignored.

Edited to add this link to fabulous paper which puts it so well: Invisible at the End of the Spectrum: Shadows, Residues, ‘BAP’, and the Female Asperger’s Experience

Thought for the day:

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*Passive
Often amiable, gentle, and easily led. Those passive rather than aloof from infancy may fit AS. More likely than the aloof to have had a mainstream education, and their psych skill profiles are less uneven. Social approaches passively accepted (little response or show of feelings). Characteristic autistic egocentricity less obvious in this group than in others. Activities are limited and repetitive, but less so than other autistics. Can react with unexpected anger or distress. Recognition of their autism depends more on observing the absence of the social and creative aspects of normal development than the presence of positive abnormalities. The general amenability is an advantage in work, and they are reliable, but sometimes their passivity and naivete can cause great problems. If undiagnosed, parents and teachers may be disappointed they cannot keep a job at the level predicted from their schoolwork.

Professionals Not Understanding Autistic Presentations – Masking

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There is such a lot of professional ignorance about autism out there.  Well, I do muse to myself that it could just be in the UK.  We apparently have rates of 1 in 100, but in the US latest figures are 1 in 68.  That tells us that either the Americans are over-diagnosing/have higher rates for some reason – or that the UK is under-diagnosing.  My own thoughts are that the cash-strapped NHS has a directive to only diagnose the most severe cases of autism.  Severity is likely judged by things such as whether the child is disrupting the class at school.  When a child is quiet and compliant at school, their support needs get ignored.  Sadly, this is the case even when parents are reporting their child’s distress and extreme behaviours in great detail and family life is greatly impacted by the fallout of supporting an undiagnosed child.

If you look at the NHS NICE Guidelines for Autism Diagnosis in Children & Young People it says:

http://www.nice.org.uk/nicemedia/live/13572/56428/56428.pdf

1.2.5 When considering the possibility of autism, be aware that:

  • signs and symptoms will not always have been recognised by parents, carers, children or young people themselves or by other professionals
  • when older children or young people present for the first time with possible autism, signs or symptoms may have previously been masked by the child or young person’s coping mechanisms and/or a supportive environment

1.2.7 Do not rule out autism because of:

  • difficulties appearing to resolve after a needs-based intervention (such as a supportive structured learning environment)

The point being, that school (whilst not necessarily “supportive”) can be a routine and structure that enables an autistic child to function with few apparent difficulties.  That doesn’t mean they are not there.  Mental health can greatly suffer if the condition is not recognised and supported.

In the American DSM (which some clinicians in the UK use), it says:

http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/hcp-dsm.html

“Diagnostic Criteria for 299.00 Autism Spectrum Disorder

Severity is based on social communication impairments and restricted, repetitive patterns of behavior.

  1. Symptoms must be present in the early developmental period (but may not become fully manifest until social demands exceed limited capacities, or may be masked by learned strategies in later life).”

So at school, the demands may not have exceeded the child’s capacities, that doesn’t make them not autistic or not entitled to diagnosis.  Many high-functioning ASC children are highly anxious and are so inhibited at school and trying so desperately to fit in, they manage to subdue their behaviour, but this is like a volcano awaiting eruption and once they get home, where they feel safe, they release their anxiety and stress.

Professionals seem to be very keen to blame parenting and fob parents off with parenting courses which of course, won’t make any difference to the autistic child, whether this is deliberate and part of the directive not to diagnose as many as possible, or whether they truly believe there are that many failed parents out there, I will leave you to judge.  They seem to struggle to understand that autism is a spectrum, and that traits vary in their strength and manifestation between individuals.  Because some traits seem more subtle, they are telling parents “some autistic behaviours but not enough for a diagnosis” which is outrageous.

Professionals accusing parents of being the cause of their autistic child’s behaviour is wrong on so many levels.  The environment a behaviour is present in, doesn’t automatically mean that this is the environment causing the behaviour.  So I will leave this message to all those professionals out there, that seemingly cannot think outside of their box, do not understand autism and work in a culture of blame:

Edited to add this research: http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/08856257.2014.986915#aHR0cDovL3d3dy50YW5kZm9ubGluZS5jb20vZG9pL3BkZi8xMC4xMDgwLzA4ODU2MjU3LjIwMTQuOTg2OTE1QEBAMA==

“Abstract

This article presents the findings of ethnographic case studies of three girls on the autistic spectrum attending mainstream primary schools and illustrates the difficulties they experience and the ways in which these are often unrecognised. The observations of the girls and subsequent individual interviews with their mothers, class teachers, SENCO’s and ultimately themselves, reveal the personal adjustments the girls make in response to the hidden curriculum and the ways in which these go unnoticed, effectively masking their need for support, and contributing to their underachievement in school. The research also identifies a misunderstanding of autism in girls by some teachers that contributes to a lack of support for their needs, despite their diagnosis. Teachers need to understand how autistic girls present, and how they learn, if they are to recognise the need to illuminate the hidden curriculum. The implications of these findings are that without this awareness autistic girls in mainstream settings are also at risk of limited access to the known curriculum and of social isolation.”

Assume

Another autism poem…

illegal aliens

Illegal Aliens

They know not us, we are other, us alone

Separate, different, alien, unknown

Judging by rules made for the masses of same

Thinking in their boxes, like a runaway train

The army is building, the new breed it has come

This world of wrongness will become, undone

Like the fly in the ointment, we exist we are real

Ignoring us easily, like it’s no big deal

Huddling together against our kind

You live in the chains of your minds

Despite how hard it is struggling through

I’d rather be like me, than be like you

Pretending to be one of you, to merge

Whilst inside, I feel myself want to surge

Societies that are blind, crumble in the end

Let us show you the way, let us, you mend

The “Triad of Impairments” in Everyday Life

ImageThe triad of impairments model, (so named by Wing and Gould, 1979) is an overview of the deficits that define autism.  But how do these translate into everyday life?  The list of deficits provides an explanation of what we find difficult or challenging, but to the layperson (and perhaps even the clinician), it doesn’t tell you what it’s like, or give examples of how it affects a person.  So based on the list in the pictured triad (courtesy of the NAS), I will attempt to explain.

Social and Emotional

Friendships – many people on the spectrum struggle with friendships.  We are not often good at small talk and gossip, the very things that NT’s use to strike up conversation or keep it going.  We can learn the sorts of things NT’s chat about, but it always feels awkward and requires cognitive effort.  We struggle with uncomfortable lulls in conversation, perhaps feeling like we are meant to fill them and thus talking too much or about random things which may not fit the conversation.  This makes for a stilted conversation and can be a key time for the blurting out of inappropriate things.  Having trouble with conversation can make it difficult to get friendships off the ground.  Also, even if we manage to start a friendship, we can then struggle with reciprocity.  It can result in the NT friend doing all the calling up to make arrangements and ending up dropping the friendship, because they misconstrue that the autistic person doesn’t care about maintaining it.  Then there is the socialising itself, how much is the right amount?  Someone on the spectrum can struggle knowing if things are “their turn” too.  Many on the spectrum need little socialising time for a variety of reasons, and the other NT party in the friendship can find this boring or frustrating and therefore the friendship can flounder.

Managing Unstructured Parts of the Day – Having free time can be difficult for an autistic person.  We like order and routine, and if we’re left to our own devices, if we have no special interest or task to keep us occupied, we can waste a lot of time through not being sure what to do with ourselves.  For this reason, break-times at school can be very difficult for the autistic child, coupled with their difficulties socialising with their peers.  This is one of the reasons many parents of autistic children find visual timetables useful, so the child can see what is coming next and is not left to figure it out for themselves.  Unstructured time can cause anxiety, and people with autism often need someone to instruct them on what needs doing so that they don’t forget, our brains are so busy whizzing with other thoughts and processing sensory input, we often need to-do lists to remind us and enable us to keep some structure we need.

Working Co-operatively – People with autism often work really well alone, in fact working with others can actively hinder us.  We can concentrate intensely on things (hyperfocus) and also, can have unique ways of approaching problem-solving.  We also can have issues with empathy, the art of knowing what others are thinking or feeling in a situation, so we can be very one-track minded in our own ways of doing things.  When you marry that with socialising problems, working as part of a team can be very difficult.  If I have realised the best way to do something, no-one can persuade me otherwise and if someone else insists on a different way, I am very unlikely to want to do it their way.  Autistic children often have trouble playing games with others, because they want to play it by their own rules, or even to make up the rules which they insist everyone else must follow.  This way of thinking and behaving, can make an autistic person very unpopular!

Language and Communication

Difficulty processing and retaining information – For me, this is mainly verbal information.  Speaking to people means I have to put a lot of cognitive effort into what they are saying, as I have to try to understand not only concrete information but implications and between the lines stuff.  It is exhausting.  I can forget whole sections of conversation, and they may come back to me a significant time after the event, like random bits of programming code getting thrown out.  Written information is much easier for me, but even that, I may need to re-read several times to ensure I have understood it correctly.  Some things may be taken literally and need time to register.  The more people are in a conversation that I am taking part in, the more likely it is that I will lose meaning and struggle to hear what is being said and hence remember the content.  Note taking is absolutely vital when listening to information verbally.

Difficulty understanding jokes and sarcasm; Social use of language; Literal interpretation; Body language, facial expression and gesture – These are pretty self-explanatory, but I wanted to explain that literal interpretation doesn’t mean that none of us understand or can learn metaphors.  The age-old idea that we believe “it’s raining cats and dogs” means we all think that dogs and cats are literally falling out of the sky, is simplistic and far from being always the case.  I have learned a lot of metaphors and I won’t lie, often I do get a funny visual of the scenario being quoted, but for me literal interpretation is a lot more general in conversation.  It could mean for me, that e.g. if someone says “I’ll call you in the next couple of days” and they don’t call within 2 days, I will think they have broken their word.  Or I will take rules and instructions very seriously and not understand that it isn’t a problem if the exact thing stated doesn’t happen.

I can understand obvious jokes (even if I don’t always get the punchline) but if people make deadpan jokey comments, I usually won’t understand they are joking.  I get this with my NT husband a lot, he’s always joking but it doesn’t sound like jokes to me and I can be indignant at what he says and he will have to remind me he was joking, I never learn that he is joking, it’s the same every time.

I have failed to understand people were being sarcastic to me many times, which I guess is about tone of voice rather than gestures.  I have problems with subtle body language, not with obvious gestures.

Flexibility of Thought (Imagination)

Coping with Changes in Routine; Empathy; Generalisation – People, (even clinical people), often assume this means autistic people have no imagination.  This is absolutely incorrect, it is social imagination we have problems with.  Many autistic people are very creative and imaginative.  In fact, Tony Attwood speaks about Aspie children often living deeply in an imaginary world.  Social imagination means having a good understanding of what is expected in situations or what peoples’ intentions are, and this is something we do have trouble with.  We often like to know what is happening next and don’t like unexpected surprises, which is why routines are important to us.  We plan ahead in our minds based on what we expect and if that changes, it becomes stressful.  Empathy, I have written a whole post about further down my blog.  There are different types of empathy and ‘affective empathy’ (sympathy) is usually intact in autistic people.  The type of empathy we struggle with, is understanding that other people might have different feelings to ourselves, or different viewpoints, or their reasons for behaving a certain way.  Although if we have been in that particular situation ourselves before, we can understand the other person’s behaviour more.  Generalisation is anathema to an Aspie.  We are often very specific and want to know the details.  if someone gives a generalised answer we will want to question them on the exact specifics.  Likewise, if someone asks a very general or open question of us, we will not be sure how to answer it, we will need an exact question to answer.

My thought for the day:

“We are so much more than a triad of impairments”.

Anomalous Experience in ASC Communication…A Musing

MiscommunicationCommunication is a funny thing.  Even in the world of neurotypicals (NTs), people regularly misunderstand one another.  And that’s just those that speak the same language.   Autistic presentation in communication often seems to lead NTs to jump to the wrong conclusions.  Verbosity for example, can be mistaken for anxiety by someone that doesn’t understand ASC, both in verbal and written communication.  The tendency for people with autism not to always realise how the other party may view the communication, can also cause difficulties in communications between the parties.  Sadly, with autism awareness being so low generally, there is no hope of a magic wand being waved that will make NTs think outside of the box that they are used to being in.

This can make it ultra hard for someone on the spectrum, who not only has to cognitively process their understanding of the communication in question, but to preempt how their communication may be perceived – or misperceived.  Many people on the spectrum, have a processing delay, because of needing time to work all this out.  It’s a minefield out there, as they say.  Verbal communication is therefore usually the most challenging for us, and yet strangely, it is face-to-face communication where people tell me I come across best.  Conversing with more than one person is that bit more challenging, because you are having to follow multiple strands of conversation and process multiple participant’s meanings.  This means post-event, a feeling of exhaustion.  So I do find it puzzling that this real me, apparently comes across better than I do by the written word.

Of course written communication has its own challenges, but verbosity (the middle name of many Aspies) is a natural state, and rattling off lengthy communications is no problem.  However, NTs seem to take it for granted that language will be couched in softeners, floweriness and implications.  They may be always bearing in mind how the other person receives their communication.  Someone with ASC won’t be – or will be on an ongoing learning curve to achieve this and it can be hit and miss.  So the direct and factual style of an Aspie/autie, can easily be misinterpreted as critical, attacking or making things personal.  I am always surprised when people have taken things this way, as 99% of the time (we’re all allowed a grumble once in a while!) it was not my intention.

An Aspie will usually not be adept at, or naturally inclined to, communicating with hidden meanings, or using social tricks to get their meaning across or to achieve their goal.  NTs seem to find this difficult to interpret, so they make assumptions that a straightforward communicating style is being aggressive.  It puts someone on the spectrum at an immediate disadvantage, because then the NTs they are dealing with will form an opinion about them, which is usually negative.  NTs seem not to know how to take a blunt Aspie, and judging by NT standards will usually leave an Aspie in an unfavourable light.  We cannot change that, as NTs are the majority, it’s just one more thing that makes being an Aspie a challenge.

When miscommunication involves professionals, it can become fraught with difficulties.   Professionals will already have, depending on their particular discipline, a tendency to their own professional biases and add human feelings, egos and tendency to assume, and it makes for one runaway train of miscommunication that can cause all sorts of problems.  An Aspie is likely to assume that being factual and giving all the details, will get the other person to understand, but it doesn’t seem to work like that.  I always think people will be grateful for the detail, as it gives them a very complete picture from which to take action or understand a situation.  But NTs seem to get unnerved by what they view as a wall of information (I do punctuate!), from which they struggle to identify what is needed.  I find that strange.

Recently, two people have told me they like the way I put things across in writing, which was nice to hear.  They seemed to find my directness refreshing.  It would be lovely if everyone felt the same way.  People are often busy, and don’t have the time to read lengthy epistles, I get that.  But sometimes, if they just took the time to read it and absorb it, it would save so much trouble later on.  They tend to just file things, or perhaps skim read things, and then forget about them.  Sometimes, spending that little bit of time in the beginning, and asking any questions right then, avoids all sorts of miscommunications and difficulties later.

Cartoon miscommunicationDon’t we deserve to have a little understanding and accommodation in communication?  Why is the autistic person always expected to understand how NTs communicate and try to fit into that way (which let’s face it, if your brain is not wired that way is never going to be easy), why can’t NTs think a little more openly and not prejudge?  If someone has a visible disability, such as being in a wheelchair, NTs will automatically supply the adjustments needed, such as opening doors for them or providing access ramps.  Is it so much to ask that instead of jumping to conclusions, NTs that know of your condition, will make a few little adjustments for you?

I think one of the hardest aspects, is the NT tendency to gossip about you behind your back when your Aspie behaviours are being misjudged by them.  Even professionals do it.  They already want to pathologise and label everything as it is, so when they come into contact with someone with autism, they misconstrue and label the traits a certain way, usually unfavourably.  When you are in a family situation, that can cause a lot of problems and lead to much barking up the wrong tree.  This is why, I always go back to autism awareness, and how lack of it across the board, causes many problems for those on the spectrum.

Texting miscommunicationSo this adjacent message, represents the written word particularly and how even among NTs, people can misunderstand – imagine how much worse that is for someone on the spectrum?  So my final note here, is this quote:

“The majority of dysfunctions that arise and entrench themselves in our lives are caused because of preconditioned expectations and assumptions”

~ Ly De Angeles

Lost in Translation…Tales of The Language and Expression of Autism as an Alien Concept

ImageThe Rorschach inkblot test is a great illustrator of the point here.  A random inkblot can be interpreted in different ways by different people, and based on what they see, a psychologist or psychiatrist can use that information towards diagnosing psychopathology.

So there are two points – the first is, that the same thing can be interpreted in different ways by different people, and the second, is that depending on a person’s life experience, training (or lack thereof), environment or upbringing and all sorts of other reasons, they can have a bias to see things a particular way.  Hence the making of assumptions, often incorrect in the case of the autistic people they are assuming about.

I have my own experiences both as an adult with Asperger’s and as a parent of autistic children, of miscommunication and misunderstanding with neurotypical people.  And it cuts both ways.

I feel sure that many parents of autistic children out there, can give testimony to their child saying, (or in the throes of anxiety or meltdown) screaming out, things that would be so likely to be misinterpreted by others, particularly others who don’t know the context or the child’s condition.  Only today, I also read of a worried mother whose autistic child had gone into school and made false accusations against her father of getting her up in the middle of the night to “beat her up” and then laughingly told the parents later on “I lied to see if you get taken away” and the mother is heartbroken.  Clearly the issues here in this particular child, and no doubt others, are low emotional maturity/awareness, low empathy, normal-high intellect and communication deficits – which can be a perfect storm for things getting either taken the wrong way or the child not realising the impact of their words or actions because of autism.  My own younger child (aged 9) has said awful things to me, in a calm and cool voice, because I won a game of snakes and ladders against her.  Later on, she will say she didn’t mean it, but that she was angry.  You would never have known she was angry by the way she said it and the delay after the game finished, before she said it.  It was meant to hurt me, because she was angry, but she had also clearly ruminated about losing the game and thought about what she could say to hurt me.

Once, we undertook a family outing to a play centre, my youngest child got stressed inside the soft play area and had a meltdown, I tried my best to calm her down but she couldn’t stop (it’s a runaway train a lot of the time) and in the end I had to take her by the hand and outside to the car.  All the toddlers in the centre were staring open-mouthed, at this older child screaming, like one of them having a tantrum – times ten.  Whilst taking her across the car park, she was screaming “Help!  You’re taking me away!” and I could see people looking wondering whether I was abducting someone else’s child.

There have been many times the children have both yelled things out at home which I cringe at, because I am acutely aware that to a neighbour through the walls, the meaning will sound totally other than what it actually is.  And bearing in mind that many autistic children are hypersensitive and hyper-reactive to small things, the frequency of screams and tears and yelling of misconstruable things, can be a big concern for a family.

Because autistic children often say things in a factual way, without explaining further, this is another cause for other people to misunderstand and jump to conclusions without looking deeper or enquiring further.  Being misunderstood can have all sorts of consequences, the child may not have the insight to realise they are being misunderstood, or what the implications are, and the parents may be the only people who really know the child and their unique way of expressing themselves and what they actually mean.  You cannot raise a child from a baby without picking up what they mean in the way they express themselves, parents of NT children “learn” their children, but parents of autistic children take this to a whole other level.  You know how a mum is often the only person to understand the particular babble of their toddler, which everyone else finds unintelligible, or how the spouse of a motor neurone disease sufferer will know by a twitch or eye movement exactly what they mean?  That times a hundred, and if the parent is on the spectrum themselves, perhaps that times a thousand.

Then there is the issue of atypical presentation of emotions.  Many parents will know of the ‘different behaviour between school and home‘ scenario – sadly even clinicians aren’t fully aware of this and many other professionals cannot grasp it and refuse to accept it is even possible.  This can lead to schools denying a child is having difficulties coping and professionals in turn, accusing parents of either exaggerating or even making up their child’s difficulties.  This can of course have the potentially devastating effect of the child not receiving the support they need, which in turn affects the child’s mental health and services refusing to accept the problem can be a big strain on a family.  I still shudder when I recall recently reading in the comments below a media article on bullying (something many ASC children suffer from) a mother describe how CAMHS’ failure to support her bullied autistic child, led to their suicide.  Rates of bullying of autistic children can be as high as 63% (possibly higher as those are only the reported cases).  If a child is bullied and the school doesn’t address the problem or accept that it even exists, because the child reports it with flat affect so it is not taken seriously, then this shows professionals are not understanding the unique nature of autistic traits and difficulties.

Autistic children may also display “inappropriate” emotions which an uneducated person would not understand.  For instance, laughing whilst feeling distressed, or want to extricate themselves from a situation or environment.  My husband does not see, that if he teases the children and they are laughing, that this might hide the fact that they are not enjoying it – I can see that they might be close to tears and the laughter disguises how they are really feeling.  Or when he has taken them out, to him they can appear to be fine and enjoying the outing, but the moment they return home either one of them (and sometimes both) can throw themselves at me loudly complaining and almost crying about how they didn’t enjoy it.  And it’s complicated by alexithymia causing difficulty understanding and expressing their emotions.  So when a parent, often the mother, can see what is happening with their child, they can have immense difficulty getting professionals and services to recognise it.  They can be accused of being neurotic, anxious, over-protective, controlling and even more serious things, when they try to seek help for their child and explain the difficulties.  Often also, an autistic child will release their distress and feelings with the person and in the place, they feel safest to do so – at home with the mother.  They are masking it in front of others and this is why the training and awareness of services and professionals is essential, as is professionals treating parents with respect and listening to them.

Life is hard enough with autism, or raising autistic children, we don’t need misjudging been thrown on top of that.

I will finish by requoting something I quoted in one of my other posts:

http://www.larry-arnold.net/Autonomy/index.php/autonomy/article/view/9/21

“They judge me on the bit they can see and what they are able to see sadly will itself be limited by their own conditioning…” (Lyte)

Aspie Burnout

Image“Aspie burnout” is a colloquial term, that the clinical world doesn’t seem to acknowledge as a genuine part of the autistic spectrum, resulting from the attempts to “be normal”, fit in and keep up.  Here, I think it is very useful to draw peoples’ attention to Christine Miserandino’s ‘spoon theory’: http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/wpress/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/ because when I read it, I saw such immense parallels with living with Asperger’s/autism.  It can creep up on you, it can hit any time, but for sure, most Aspies will have experienced Aspie burnout by the time they hit 35.

Basically, the higher functioning you are, the more others expect of you and also, the more you push yourself.  You have an invisible disability, you look normal and have no apparent physical difference.  So why can’t you behave and carry on like everyone else?  Sure, everyone gets tired, sure they also can get burnout from pushing themselves too hard.  But the difference is this: we get it from just existing in a neurotypical world, a world that doesn’t accept our differences or make allowances for them.  Mental health issues such as anxiety and depression are greater in high-functioning autistics, because of trying to fit in and finding it so difficult.  Because we are acutely aware of our differences and our failings, but we are just as affected by them as lower-functioning autistics.  So we kind of have the rawest deal.

People say to you things like “Other people manage why can’t you?” which only serves to make you more insecure.  There are low points, when you are angry at having autism and being different and having no control over it.  Those moments are exacerbated by such unhelpful remarks.  When you have brain differences, when you literally get overwhelmed by so many environmental things, just existing is challenging.  So when you try to take on responsibilities that other people find par for the course and take for granted, they can become massive challenges to someone like me.  And ignoring the difficulties, carrying on as you see everyone else doing, at some point, will ensure a mental/physical collapse.  This means, you can’t go out, can’t even contemplate doing the most basic things without great difficulty.  The saying “Something’s gotta give” comes to mind.  We need to pace ourselves, just like Christine, there is only so much we can manage.  Trying to do it all, can only work for a limited time.

If you Google “Aspie burnout” all that comes up is a collection of blogs and websites like this.  The very real experiences of us Aspies.  But there is no clinical term for this specific condition, no doctor seems to be aware of it.  When you hit burnout, you can take a long time to recover.  Even one stressful day, for someone on the spectrum can mean days or even longer, of hiding away to recover afterwards.  So imagine what impact it has if you try day after day to continue living at a level, which to others is ordinary but to you is a massive challenge.  And once you burnout, your coping capacity is diminished.  That means, even when you recover, if it happens again, it can happen quicker and take less to provoke it.

I have read of one author who has written about Aspie burnout:

Suzanne C. Lawton refers to Aspie burnout as The Asperger Middle-Age Burnout in her book Asperger Syndrome: Natural Steps Toward a Better Life.  On page 33 it says:

“She had noted this same behavior and attributed it to adrenal exhaustion from years of pumping out high levels of epinephrine from prolonged severe anxiety. Not only were these AS people dealing with their regular levels of anxiety, but they were also working extremely hard to maintain a façade of normalcy.”

Although I don’t think that it only applies to middle-aged Aspies as I have read of younger Aspies having it too.  I think it depends on your unique balance of traits, the support you have and your environment as to when you get it.  Some may be lucky to escape it, but I think that is a rare Aspie.  So us Aspies must remember, to stop pushing ourselves too hard, think of what we need, like Christina, measure out our spoons with care, and be kind to ourselves.  Don’t be scared to say “no”.  Thought for the day:

“Exhaustion without reward is torture.”
~ Kerlynne Ferrer

(someone has done a Dutch translation of my above blog post here, I can’t verify the faithfulness of the translation because I don’t speak Dutch, but it might be useful to Dutch speakers!)

OCD or not OCD…That is the Question!

OCD mugOCD behaviours in autism are a subject of debate.  Are they a co-morbid condition, or an integral feature of the autistic condition for many with autism?  Interesting research states the following:

http://apt.rcpsych.org/content/7/4/310.full

“Obsessive compulsive disorders (DSM-IV)
The core features of obsessive–compulsive disorder (OCD) are recurrent and persistent thoughts, impulses or images that are experienced at some time during the disturbance as intrusive and inappropriate and that cause marked anxiety or distress. The individual recognises that these are a product of his or her own mind. Compulsions involve repetitive behaviours or mental acts that a person feels driven to perform to reduce stress associated with some dreaded event or situation. An adult can recognise that they are excessive or unreasonable, but children cannot (American Psychiatric Association, 1994).

These phenomena, including the urge to count and manipulate numbers, to repeat the same action over and over, are similar to the repetitive routines associated with Asperger syndrome. Individuals with both conditions display ritualistic behaviour and resistance to change. Where they differ is that persons with Asperger syndrome have obsessive interests that are not experienced as ego-dystonic and, indeed, are often enjoyed. Baron-Cohen (1989) was critical of the use of the term obsession in persons with autism because the subjective phenomena of resistance to repetitive activities could not be discerned in autism. He suggested instead the phrase ‘repetitive activities’. OCD generally has a much later onset and lacks the poor social emotional reciprocity, empathy problems and social skills difficulties of people with Asperger syndrome (Szatmari, 1998). Detailed analysis of current symptoms and an early developmental history are the key to making a correct diagnosis.

Clearly, the differentiation of Asperger disorder from other conditions is complex because of the many possibilities for misdiagnosis. The key to correct diagnosis is a precise early developmental history, with a systematic discussion of all the criteria set out for Asperger syndrome (Wing, 1981; Gillberg, 1991) or Asperger disorder (American Psychiatric Association, 1994). Assessment instruments such as the ADI–R may be useful in establishing diagnosis. A multi-disciplinary team approach is critical, and diagnosis from a solely neurological, speech and language or educational point of view must cease if families are to be spared confused partial diagnoses.”

Clearly, it’s highly questionable that OCD should be considered a separate diagnosis that is in addition to the ASC diagnosis, so is it actually a trait that is a core feature in a significant amount of individuals with ASC.  Especially so, when you consider that true OCD, usually starts later, than OCD behaviours in autism may present:

http://www.ocduk.org/ocd

“OCD affects males and females equally, and on average begins to affect people during late adolescence for men and during their early twenties for women.”

Therefore, children who show OCD behaviours younger than this, who are in fact on the autistic spectrum, should be evaluated with extra care during their ASC assessment so that OCD traits do not deflect from their ASC traits and they end up misdiagnosed.  Clinicians need to have full training and awareness of the existence and frequence of OCD behaviours in autism.

I definitely have OCD behaviours, I colour-match clothes pegs, I go back and re-check I have locked the front door even when I know I did lock it, I have to do it every time, and I am compelled to check that I didn’t leave my bag or belongings behind when I get up to leave somewhere.  When I was a teenager I used to have to step on certain parts of paving stones as I walked.  None of this is about me feeling something bad will happen if I don’t do it, it is a compulsion which no doubt is about control.  As an Aspie, life is chaotic and confusing, so somewhere in my brain, I clearly need to control my environment as much as possible.  It doesn’t rule my life, but it does affect it, because probably if someone tried to force me not to carry out my checks and organising, I might start heading for a meltdown!

Hoarding is a known type of OCD, but then collecting things is common on the autistic spectrum so where does one start and the other end?  Females are often known to like collecting handbags and shoes for instance.  I do this, but to quite an extreme.  I have many handbags that I have matching shoes for, all of which are neatly stored in stacked shoe containers, and most of which have never been worn.  I like these things, I want them, I feel compelled to get them, but then I don’t use them.  Likewise, I collect beauty gadgets (I sometimes think I own enough that I could set up my own beauty business with them!)  and many never get used and are surplus to requirements.  I also have a strange fascination with cleaning implements such as vacuum cleaners.  I don’t understand why.  I am always behind with housework so it’s not as if I am an OCD cleaning-freak.  I read about the features of vacuum cleaners and get a thrill when I see a new vacuum cleaner product, I’m currently very interested in robot vacuums!  These fascinations, which can develop into special interests could look like OCD behaviours, but merge into autism spectrum behaviours.

New edit: This piece of research questions whether there is a “putative OCD-autistic disorder, which should be studied in greater detail.” http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12587149

New edit: This research identifies that OCD and autism share genetic roots and “people with autism are twice as likely to receive a diagnosis of OCD and people with OCD are four times as likely to also have autism”  https://spectrumnews.org/news/sweeping-study-underscores-autisms-overlap-with-obsessions/

 

Thought for the day:

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